Targeted Parents Speak Out

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A good Mom bullied to death in Texas family court. Her ex is a doctor who, like many wealthy men, used his money & connections to control the divorce to the detriment of the children and mother.

This good Mom pulled her car onto the tracks after he prevented her (with the court’s blessing) from giving her daughter her 16th birthday gift.  (Unfortunately, there are countless good Moms bullied to death that are never written about and nobody ever hears about.  Maybe Michael Volpe will do her story???!!!)”

“I suffer from flashbacks of the Judge just sitting there and allowing attorneys ganging up on me, telling the sleeziest lies while laughing at me together in the front of the courtroom, while I had to stand there alone with no representation or ability to show the court the evidence.  This happened too many times to count.  This type of bullying should never be allowed because it never goes away.  It changes you forever.”

There is no doubt in my mind my ex’s attorney and the judges tried to destroy me as a person.  They took a lot of money.”

“I too was bullied mercilessly by my ex’s attorneys and the child rep working the system together; endless harassing litigation to the point I couldn’t work, keeping me in court monthly, verbal abuse, emotionally abusive & harassing messages, standing together in court laughing and mocking me while I stood there alone with no lawyer, constant false reporting to the court-the most despicable slander.”

“Today, an Army buddy of my Son’s, and close friend, took his own life. I have never met him. I watch these kids, fighting overseas, working for a career. He was not mentally ill. He was a Soldier. More tormented by lack of competence in an unjust world in the United States, than in Afghanistan. Of course it dealt with family court; who treated him, husband and father, more brutal than Isis. We are so concerned with meaningless bullshit and our own selves, that no one cares to listen to this type of problem. One which people could help with, yet refuse to.   There was no way to stop him. When one has hit a low like he has, the decision is made. Much is revealed in the manner of death. He was overwhelmed by our corrupt justice system, he wanted to just sleep forever. Many of us have been there. No one realizes just how bad divorce can be until you are actually victimized by the “system”.   Please pray that Donnie rest, and be allowed to watch over his children. That God comfort him .” 

10441363_671772589554973_7811869996384737872_n” I feel despair, and a little horror. It bothers me that the country I live in is a place where something like this could happen”

” I am just a simple man. It is hard to stay ahead of the life altering lies spewing from them.”

“My son was a straight-A Honors student. He had his curriculum all planned out to go to MIT.  After being forced to live with his abusive father and leave his school he has a C-Average.  I’m just holding on, so when they are both finally set free I can help them heal and re-build their lives.”

“So many parents and children have taken their lives.  The bullies profiting from hurting families like this don’t care at all about the devastation, the lives they ruin.”

“This broke my heart. I wish no one else has ever had to feel this pain.  One person shattered is enough.”

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“I have chest pain almost every day now – “Broken Heart Syndrome”, a medical condition brought on by a broken heart.”

” Losing my only child has been almost more than I can bear.”  

“The Judge actually seemed to enjoy the tawdry and sleezy lies the lawyers came up with. It seemed like entertainment to him.  What kind of a sick mind enjoys seeing somebody being destroyed on purpose like that, while they offered absolutely no evidence?  They lie so effortlessley – no conscience.”

“I’m in a living nightmare, Something deeply precious was stolen, I’m in ongoing grief and despair, Unbidden tears awash again and again, Never any idea what to do, or what to say, Everything is used against me, the rules are unfair”

Gaslight_1944_trailer(3)“Seems like every targeted mother I know gets slandered with the same lie – “mentally ill”.”    

“I totally had the same thing happen to me, was told by my sons in a mediator’s office that they did not want to see me, was called by my first name etc.,”

26558_414250333372_1300232_n“My eldest daughter, who was alienated, abused, and kept from me for years,  was discarded by her father when she was of age and he could no longer collect support.  He threw her out into the street.  Today she received a registered letter from him.   He’s pissed that she went to visit her siblings, wants to stop her from seeing them.  He signed the letter CRAIG.  She realizes now he is not capable of loving anyone, only consumed with power and control.”

 fist“Many mothers who seek safety from abuse are routinely prohibited from having even the most basic contact with their own children, not because they were unfit parents, but because they were outspent, out represented, and out-maneuvered in a court atmosphere not prepared to understand the needs of families dealing with domestic violence. To unnecessarily and violently separate a woman and her young children can represent the gravest form of abuse, with major social ramifications in generations to come.  When a court orders the removal of a child from a parent it can have the same emotional wounding effect on the deprived mother (or father) as if that child has been kidnapped or murdered. When the deprived parent has been the protective parent, and the court gives custody and decision-making power to the abusive parent under the guise of “Best Interests of the Child” statutes, the loss to the severed parent is deeply damaging.”

10367137_811465682198562_816864177374600240_n“My life (is) destroyed & he got everything & got away with everything he did. I can’t rest easy on that!”

“I recently went to see THE LION KING on stage..the young Simba is told lies by the adult Scar, his uncle…Simba accidentally meets Nala, his childhood friend, she convinces him to return. When he confronts Scar, the evil manipulator inadvertently reveals that he killed Simba’s father…the interesting theme of the story is that children often believe the lies that adults tell them, and live for years believing those lies.”

10987452_10205541988581397_7705652836122793530_n“It’s a shame we all are having to endure this and inexcusable that these other parents are behaving so abusively. It’s like they are being rewarded for being criminal.”     

“How can I reconnect with my son when his father keeps him from me and fills his head with lies and brainwashes him to think I hate him?”

“I had wonderful daughters who loved me immensely until one day when they didn’t anymore for no apparent reason and for nothing I did..”

11831720_10205666797322884_149653450646472404_n” It also never occurred to me that my kids could ever stop loving me and feeling close to me. I was very involved, engaged, supportive mother. Next thing I knew they refused to call me ‘Mom.”

“Come home my darlings. I’m coping and living a full life, with surprising joy, but NOTHING compares to you. Come back please… in your hearts…. please turn your hearts toward home; toward me.  Love,  Mom”  

“Dear Angela and Sarah,I love you. I miss you, please come home for Christmas in your hearts.”  

1476399_10202186785143408_2125299281_n“Dear Matthew, Luke & Sarah, Please know your Mom n Grandparents, your Finnish relatives, my friends n extended family all love and miss you terribly. We are still here for you. Waiting patiently for you to come home. Merry Christmas.” 

“No twinkle of hope ….. Zero zip nothing …. The years are passing by.”

1520610_10202361617074097_181679927_n“I need advice. I talked to my oldest (16, male) via text messaging and he cussed me and was acting ugly. I didn’t correct him but I feel like if I don’t, it’s like I’m saying him treating me this way is okay. Any suggestions on how to handle this? He used his father’s phone to talk to me, and I don’t know if his dad and stepmom are aware of any of the convo (but I wouldn’t doubt it if they were).”

12141573_1668889346660685_6518613666525268740_n (1)“I got to talk to my children twice by phone when the ex first took them away.  After that, the phone was never answered….When the final divorce was declared, it was certain that I would not be able to talk to my children again.  I was destroyed.  I went through 3 rounds in the psych ward.  I eventually ended up in a tent in the middle of winter in an Iowa state park.”  

Happy-christmas-2016-6“As we are heading into the holiday season, a time when family and friends look forward to being together and celebrating, I would like everyone to remember that there are hundreds of thousands of others who are suffering. They have lost loved ones, or are alienated from their own children, and for us, the holidays are a time that only magnifies the pain we feel all year, and the many reminders of all the fun things we could and should be doing with those we love is a dagger to our hearts. We are fighting for change, because dying a slow death from grief is not living, it is just another form of dying, and this type of abuse cannot continue any longer. Everyone of us matters, everyone of our children needs and loves us, just as much as we need and love them. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time of year. Please don’t give up, and know you’re not alone. We are here for anyone who needs to reach out, and we will never stop fighting, for you, for ourselves, and most of all for our children.www.naasca.org/forourkids

“Thinking of you always, my beautiful daughter. Of course, the (holiday) season brings a lot of difficulties for those others of our number going without seeing their children, but then again, this goes on every day of every year for us. I know – I just know, that one day you’re going to come back to me and I live in the grace of that knowledge.”

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6 thoughts on “Targeted Parents Speak Out

  1. Lisa

    I’m a British mother fighting the system now and my abusive ex, I need my children home. Since hanging was abolished this has to be the worst possible part of British law – having the right to take your children away from you.
    I’m glad to have found this site. We all need to speak out and stand up for what is happening out here. It’s wrong and devastating. All meetings and conferences should be recorded like the police do. So the system can’t twist what is factual and what context things are said in. God bless you all, I feel you.

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  2. Fiona McCormick

    I am A British Mother apart from my lovely children 23 years. Please Listen to my radio Interview on Face Book and see my Video. My lovely children have been utterly damaged by The British Family Courts

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  3. Susan

    I am hoping that continuing to publish stories makes it at least a possibility in the worlds of those unaffected. I wish more journalists would write- certainly no shortage of wreckage to pick from.

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  4. mikevolpe11

    “I am at once taunted and threatened with poverty. That I can bear. I can school myself to worse than that: but my two children are taken away from me by legal procedure. That is, and always will remain to me, a source of infinite distress, of infinite pain, of grief without end or limit. That the law should decide and take upon itself to decide that I am one unfit to be with my own children is something quite horrible to me. The disgrace of prison is nothing compared with it. I envy the other men who tread the yard along with me. I am sure that their children wait for them, look for their coming, will be sweet to them.”
    Oscar Wilde from DeProfundis

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  6. Torn 2 Peaces

    Thank you so much for giving a voice to victims of this almost indescribable pain. More times than not, the courts and the professionals won’t help uncover the truth let alone respond in any way that is helpful to the alienated children and the targeted parents. Please share this information with principals, school counselors, college psychology teachers, etc. And ask your librarian to order books such as The Motherless Child Project, The Parentectomy, Breaking the Ties that Bind, etc. Share your story with radio call-ins, Toastmaster’s International groups, etc. It is important for victims and society to know for healing and reconciliation to happen.

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