It’s a recurring theme. Countless survivors report the same scenario: the abuser ruined every single holiday. It happened to me. Every holiday, no matter how much I cleaned, prepared, shopped, and cooked – was ruined. No holiday was ever off limits. At a time when normal people are enjoying a break from work responsibilities, to enjoy happy times with loved ones, focusing on the joy of the day at hand, and appreciating those whose hard work made the festivities possible, while putting their best foot forward, Mr. (or Mrs.) Nasty makes it their mission to make you miserable. It’s as if they know they have you as a captive audience, and seem to take twisted delight in ruining special occasions.
But why do they do this? This article holds some answers: “Narcissists and other Cluster B personality disordered individuals seem to thrive on ruining holidays. If you are reading this blog, I’m sure you’ve been victim to this phenomenon. If you stop and think about it, you can look back over the various holidays and personal birthdays and recall yourself trying to appease the narcissistic person in your life. You were most likely trying to make sense of the drama. But, truth be told, you may have discovered that there is no sense to be made…The characterologically challanged individual is hellbent on destruction, particularly relationship destruction, and even more particularly than usual, during a special day…” When the Narcissist (or other such Emotional Abuser) In Your Life Ruins The Holidays, Sharie Stines, Psy.D