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DUH!!! The Constitution Does NOT Grant Immunity For Lying To Remove a Child!!! 9th Circuit’s Epic Dis of Court/Gov’t Officials & Social Workers Dubious Claim Of “Right To Lie”.

California’s “Right To Lie” Case, Preslie Hardwick v. Orange County, Marcia Vreeken, Elaine Wilkins, The Estate of Helen Dwojack

But we didn’t know you couldn’t lie to the court. DUH!!! Liar, liar pants on fire!!! That line didn’t work on your Mother and it won’t work in Court!

Judge Stephen Trott, 9th Circuit’s Court of Appeals:How in the world could a person in the shoes of your clients possibly believe that it was appropriate to use perjury and false evidence” to remove a child from a parent, asked Judge Stephen Trott, a longtime member of the court appointed by Ronald Reagan in 1987. “How could they possibly not be in notice that you can’t do that?”

The panel did in fact reject the argument, and Trott wrote the opinion, which was released this week. Buried on page 13 is a line that artfully relays his incredulity at the argument: No official with an IQ greater than room temperature in Alaska could claim that he or she did not know that the conduct at the center of this case violated both state and federal law.”

BAM! Trott also provided a more precise dismissal of the constitutional appeal:

“… Government perjury and the knowing use of false evidence are absolutely and obviously irreconcilable with the Fourteenth Amendment’s guarantee of Due Process in our courts. Furthermore, the social workers’ alleged transgressions were not made under pressing circumstances requiring prompt action, or those providing ambiguous or conflicting guidance. There are no circumstances in a dependency proceeding that would permit government officials to bear false witness against a parent.” https://imprintnews.org/subscriber-content/9th-circuits-epic-dis-caseworkers-right-lie-case/23746

WATCH JUDGE TROTT HERE – BAM!!!!!! “Since the 1940’s the Supreme Court has held that there is a fundamental liberty interest that parents have in the care, custody and control of their children. That’s been on the books forever. I mean, I have a whole bunch of Supreme Court cases I can read from…They have that fundamental Constitutional right, and it cannot be impaired without due process of law.” The CPS “Right-to-Lie” Case, in which an attorney for CPS is asking a three-panel commission to ascertain if CPS has a constitutional right to take children from a home BASED ON PERJURY AND FABRICATED EVIDENCE-THE RIGHT TO LIE. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_8-8IZLP4w

California Court of Appeals Affirms Mom’s $4.9 Million Award https://www.prweb.com/releases/fogarty-hardwick/social_services/prweb4157254.htm

“But we didn’t know you couldn’t lie to the court!DUH!!! Liar, liar pants on fire!!! https://onlinecles.com/orange-county-but-we-didnt-know-you-couldnt-lie-to-the-court/

When Parental Alienation (DV by Proxy) Has You Ready To Give Up, Susan S. Hofer

Being an Alienated Parent is Excruciating

An alienated parent’s life is an excruciating existence, one that takes an enormous amount of energy to live.  The results of your efforts are always filled with disappointment and pain.  What else would you do, in your life, that involves so much fortitude to be rejected every time?  No one likes rejection, but for you, the alienated parent, rejection is your new normal.  Still, it hurts each time you reach out to your precious child only to hear silence.  The wound never gets a chance to heal.https://www.susanshofer.com/when-parental-alienation-has-you-ready-to-give-up/

Maybe you’re not mentally ill-maybe your body & mind are just saying NO to abuse, Lisa Nadig

An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior.” -Viktor Frankl

He should know, he’s the world-famous psychiatrist who survived the Nazi Holocaust, along with their murder of every single one of his family members.

All abusers, and all corrupt court parasites in the Family Court Holocaust label abuse victims as “mentally ill”. That’s the way the game is played, and rigged. All the better to silence you so they can continue whatever their game of abuse at the moment happens to be. And then of course, to harvest victims for the litigation-therapy racket.

But if they really hit the jackpot with a victim with some real financial assets, then look out because you’re ripe for probate court crimes, i.e. conservatorship or guardianship abuse. Or in my case, Elder Abuse of my father – Financial Exploitation of An Elderly Person With a Disability, which for the high dollar amount in our case, just happens to be a Class I Felony here in Illinois.

The most famous, current example is Britney Spears, whose corrupt child custody case fed directly into her current 13-year long Conservatorship nightmare. All abusers and court parasites know the best way to control a woman is through their kids. Britney was threatened with you’d better agree to this conservatorship or you’ll never see your kids again.

Britney Spears

She had good reason to believe them too, as Jane Shatz – (who lost her license in California for misconduct & is now trying to get licensed in Nevada) – wrote a fraudulent custody evaluation for the kids’ father, Jason Federline & Spears’ very own father – the perfect team of misogynistic domestic abusers ganging up on the woman in the family, you know – just keeping her in her place, right? You know, that little woman whose hard work, and world class talent is feeding, clothing and housing them all. Now, at age 39, Spears has finally said NO, this is enough.

I should know too – my ex-husband and his gang of court parasites and psychopaths, trying their best to label me as “crazy”. They were so frustrated, they thought they had finally won this key play in the abusers/court parasite handbook. Imagine their surprise when their little Gaslighting scam on me failed. And all they had to show for their manipulations was “Adjustment Disorder” – Situational Depression/Anxiety caused by THEM – BY THEIR LEGAL & FINANCIAL ABUSE!

And while our four generation family farm wealth certainly pails in comparison to what an abusive ex & court parasites can steal from a mega star like Britney Spears, my share of our estate was ripe for their pickings, with an elderly father ill with Parkinson’s, and his wife’s health failing from failed back surgery syndrome. But if it was this easy to commit all these crimes against a major world pop star, just think how easy it is to do to the rest of us?!

AMother’sHeartSongsUnsilenced Turns Seven: Why I Write, Lisa Nadig

#nataliekoga #exposethecorruption

I was forced to look directly into the face of evil, and I saw evil looking back at me. But I learned that telling the truth really does set you free – It might even save your life.

Seven years ago, on my birthday in 2014, I had no idea that my simple, anonymous blog post about a birthday cut off from my only child due to court licensed abuse, would morph into a website with the power to force the rich and powerful corrupt players in my Chicago family court case to resign. I only knew in my heart that day, celebrating my birthday alone, that I must express the inexpressible, because it was killing me. So, without any training as a writer, journalist, activist or web designer, I wrote my first article, Birthday Reflections, and published it here anonymously, on July 5, 2014.

But when the post exposing corrupt Child Representative Natalie Koga went viral, I began receiving anonymous threats to take this website down. Little did I know at the time that they were all facing investigation due to this exposure. But I will never be silenced by such bullies, and I have never accepted any payment for this website – a labor of love for fellow survivors.

Abusers know the best way to break a woman is by taking her Child. When an abusive man files for Sole Custody he gets it 70% of the time.

What began as a simple blog, developed into a comprehensive website. I’ve been contacted by people from all over the United States, and Europe, sharing similar stories, and thanking me for this site.

This site is searchable, organized under Categories and Tags. There are static “Pages” across the top, and Blog posts running down the right side.

It covers domestic abuse, legal abuse/court stalking, court corruption, Kids for Cash scams, the litigation-therapy racket, the billions of dollars in federal money for abusive fathers through the Federal Fatherhood Initiative driving these cases, the need for oversight/accountability for judges, lawyers, and court vendors, and cameras in the courtroom. Also included is information on Conservatorship and Guardianship abuse because Family Court crimes are frequently a gateway to Probate crimes.

It has comprehensive information on healing from trauma and corruption, including countless articles written by top experts, including Michael Volpe, Barry Goldstein, Tina Swithin, Doreen Ludwig, Sam Vaknin, Kim Saeed, and many others.

It also includes my own articles on healing, documenting the corruption in my own case, and others across the country. I’ve included case law, legal statutes, and lawsuits filed against corrupt officials, and abusive parents. There are Resources pages with hundreds of hours of researching and compiling valuable resources in one place.

Though when I started writing in 2014 this site was completely anonymous, my ex-husband and his vicious lawyers immediately began hauling me into court over it. Apparently, they didn’t want me to have a voice.

Natalie Koga pushed the judge to allow my ex to file 8 custody petitions, reducing my Child & I to mere commodities in their Kids for Cash scam.

As my ex’s lawyer #6 abused, and harassed me on the witness stand, to my amazement, the corrupt judge was visibly moved by my writings. For a moment frozen in time forever etched in my memory, I saw a flicker of humanity, a flash of recognition that it was wrong. I saw the person he once was as a young man, or might have become, before he fell in line, “going along to get along” in the Cook County family court racket. Visibly shaken, he quietly excused me from testifying, and hurriedly dismissed their petition for sanctions against me.

Separating children from their mothers is big business. Billions$ in Federal Fatherhood funding drives these cases, along w/ an abuser’s drive to use litigation to punish his victim for leaving & avoid child support payments.

But they kept hauling me into court to answer countless harassing motions, including four attempts to throw me in jail – all alone – because there had been so much legal/financial abuse that they ran me out of money for a lawyer.

It’s been a very long, tough journey, these past seven years. I’ve discovered things about corruption in our courts, and our government, that quite frankly, sometimes I wish I didn’t know. Dark, disturbing, ugly things that make it difficult for me to celebrate July Fourth or other patriotic holidays.

I’m grateful to the wonderful friends and mentors I’ve met along this journey. I’m inspired daily by their courage, and dedication to helping innocent people used by corrupt court officials and vendors in their pursuit of easy wealth without work – their Kids For Cash scams.

I’m profoundly grateful to the countless court victims – parents and children – who’ve stepped forward, trusting me with their stories.

The truth really does set you free – Veritas liberabit.

I’ve learned that I could survive the un-survivable – a gang – a cabal really – that tried with all their might to bully me to death through family court. I survived their threats, and stalking – both in and out of court – while being forcibly stripped of my humanity, to be used as a commodity in their scams. And I’ve learned to never stop speaking the truth, for it has the power to set you free. It might even save your life.

From One Mom’s Battle: Domestic Violence By Proxy

“A Message from OMB’s President (Rebecca Davis Merritt) and Vice President (Jennifer) about Domestic Violence by Proxy: You have probably seen OMB’s informational poster about why we advocate not using the term or “theory” of Parental Alienation. We post it once a month encouraging our readers to understand that the controlling behaviors of Cluster B parents in trying to place a wedge between the children and healthy parent is Domestic Violence by Proxy. The emotional abuse of a Cluster B is domestic Violence (DV). When a Cluster B personality disordered individual enters the family court system they wage war upon the healthy parent.

They may have been absent parents never attending school, medical or dental appointments but suddenly they attend everything, preening as the doting father or mother and may push for custody. Custody is seen as a prize. The goal is to hurt the healthy primary parent and save money via child support calculations.

As part of that push they groom children to see their healthy parent as untrustworthy and self-centered (projection), with divorce or separation their fault while portraying the Cluster B parent as wounded and needing the children to shower him or her with love and affection. Children often respond to this gaslighting by siding with the abusive parent. The Cluster B parent often blames the healthy parent for his or her own actions, claiming parental alienation (PA). If the children distrust Cluster B parent based upon a history of abusive behaviors, this estrangement is labeled as PA. The healthy parent, unfortunately, is at serious risk of losing custody  in family court.

Men who physically batter their former partner are much more likely to gain custody than the healthy parent.  Courts have been taught that women claiming DV in family court are usually lying and using this false claim to secure custody. Even when DV claims are accepted, courts falsely believe DV only affects direct victim and that abusers can be good parents to their children. Once Cluster Bs have the children away from the healthy parent, they use manipulation and other forms of abuse to convince the children that their other parent never loved them and are untrustworthy. Alina Patterson (2003) first defined Domestic Violence by Proxy or DV Proxy. DV Proxy is a pattern of behavior where a parent with a history of using domestic violence, or intimidation uses the child (as a substitute) when s/he does not have access to the former partner. Continuing the cycle of domestic violence, the cycle of Domestic Violence by Proxy starts when the victim leaves the abuser and the abuser learns the easiest way to continue to harm and control the former partner is through controlling access to the children.

Once the abuser has control of the children they are able to continue stalking, harassing and abusing the former partner even when the abuser has no direct access. DV can manifest in ways such as threats to the children if they display a close relationship with the former partner, destroying the children’s favorite possessions given by the former partner and emotional abuse. Children are often coached to make false allegations about the parent.DV by proxy is very deliberate and planned. The abusers know what they are doing and chose their controlling, coercive, and illegal behaviors. The behaviors are usually surrounded by threats and fears and often include “battery, destruction of property, locking children in rooms to prevent them from calling parents, falsifying documents, along with other similar overt behaviors.”

As the leadership council suggests, “Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers.” Unlike Gardner’s discredited PAS theory, the behaviors associated with DV by proxy are visible. Gardner stated the behaviors by the “alienating parent” were unconscious or unseen. This is one of the scarier components in Gardner’s theory because you cannot defend yourself against unseen things. Many healthy parents have found themselves trying to defend themselves against these unseen behaviors.

Family court professionals often fail to understand the presence and implications of both domestic violence and Cluster B psychopathology. Thus family court usually encourages unfettered access of the children to abusers. Family court judges and lawyers often work to punish healthy parents reporting bona fide abuse. Yet, they often seem to believe the victim stories told by abusers. Court officials often seem slow to recognize how family court itself can be abusive, particularly protracted, repeated, unnecessary court hearings used by the abuser to drain the financial and emotional resources of the healthy parent. Children may be placed with the abuser while the healthy parent is discredited through accusations of mental illness or PA. Other professionals involved including GALs, evaluators, therapists, etc. often take on responsibilities that are beyond their skill level. Antisocial and or Narcissistic personality disordered parents with good impression management skills are adept at “conning people, or gaining sympathy, and can win the trust and support of a family court professional while turning that same person against their ex-partner.”

The main goal of the abuser is s/he will end up with complete control over the children and will use this power over his former partner, “who tried to escape the power and control of the once abusive marriage.” They do not care if the children are harmed as long as their former partner is hurt and they feel they have won. It is imperative that the healthy parent and attorney understands how to use DV by proxy to counter and claims of parental alienation.

The following links may also be helpful: http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/Hoult-PASarticlechildrenslawjournal.pdfhttps://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/dv.htmlhttp://www.dvleap.org/Programs/CustodyAbuseProject/PASCaseOverview.as 

###One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.

History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat.  Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles.”https://www.onemomsbattle.com/blog/domestic-violence-by-proxy

Even More Of My Ex-Husband’s Fraud Uncovered, Lisa Nadig

#exposethecorruption #nataliekoga

I keep uncovering more of my ex-husband’s fraud and lies. Just when you think a person couldn’t possibly lie this much, you find more. It’s truly astounding. I can’t wrap my head around someone lying so much, committing so much blatant felony fraud – doing it all so effortlessly – to so many people.

I recently paid for a subscription to PACER, the online federal court records system. I looked up my ex’s bankruptcy, and sure enough he lied in that too. Case #: 1:15-bk-22226 He committed felony fraud with the lies that he filed in these court papers. He falsely claimed that his nearly $100k debt with divorce lawyer Meg Jackson was due to me trying to take away his visitation. He’s so good at the pity play – the poor victim act, but in fact, his debt was due to HIM aggressively re-litigating custody over and over again after it had been decided in my favor – in all he filed EIGHT petitions for Sole Custody. And it was HIM that took away completely any contact with my child.

Bankruptcy Court Dirksen Federal Building Chicago

I’m not sad that Meg Jackson (Now Mary Elizabeth) never got paid for all of her vicious legal abuse, bullying and harassment. She seemed more suited to a bar-room brawl, than a so-called dignified court of law. She lied so much for my ex-both in court and in the sleazy, schlocky crap she would file on his behalf. She clearly never verified any of his horrific, and ridiculous lies before she filed them.

Perhaps there is some justice in seeing the woman who bullied me mercilessly get stiffed. Jackson was the thug who sent me a cruel email immediately after my father’s death trying to keep me from his funeral. Perhaps she and my ex deserved each other.

He falsely claimed in his bankruptcy filing that he had been forced to pay my attorney’s fees of $22k. At no time did he ever pay my attorney’s fees-there was never such a court order entered! I WISH Judge Levinson would have followed the equal playing field laws and ordered him to pay my legal fees, then I wouldn’t have run out of money for a lawyer, and been thrown to the rabid wolves while trying to represent myself!

Bankruptcy Court Dirksen Federal Building Chicago

He also fraudulently concealed from the bankruptcy trustee his home purchase-the home where he currently resides in Hoffman Estates – by having someone else buy in his name, then as soon as the bankruptcy discharged, placing it in his own name.

It was impossible to stay ahead of his years-long, aggressive legal abuse and court stalking for three reasons:

1.) He was making over $100k per year at the time. (Of course he lied about his salary in the family court documents)

2.) He was exploiting my elderly, ill father who had Parkinson’s disease for over $60K, and eventually used his fraudulent custody switch to manipulate my father into signing over my share of our four generation family farm trust to him worth in the millions of dollars. Class 1 Felony, Elder Abuse: Financial Exploitation Of An Elderly Person With A Disability. https://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/fulltext.asp?DocName=072000050K17-56#:~:text=(b)%20Sentence.-,Financial%20exploitation%20of%20an%20elderly%20person%20or%20a%20person%20with,or%20more%20but%20less%20than

3.) He’s a lawyer kiter! He kept stiffing his lawyers – he went through six lawyers this way! Just like a check kiter, he scammed his own lawyers by kiting them, one after the other. Too bad in a place as big as Chicago, they never had the chance to meet each other to compare notes. He would hire one, pay a retainer, they would do work for him, he would stop paying, they would continue filing stuff against me while he made false promises to pay, until they got tired of working for free and withdrew, while he already had a new lawyer lined up to cycle through the same way. The biggest debt he refused to pay was his last lawyer, Meg Jackson-who now goes by “Mary Elizabeth”, and moved her law practice to Lake County. They fought each other in federal court when he illegally discharged her bill in his fraudulent bankruptcy.

I’ll never forget the day in family court when Meg Jackson filed her appearance, with his old attorney present representing the office of Jeffrey Leving, arguing to get paid. Meg Jackson was crying and whining on behalf of her new client to get the deranged, imbalanced and perpetually intoxicated Judge Alfred Levinson to sign an order forcing Jeffrey Leving’s office to release his case files they were holding – their attempt to make him pay. The easily-manipulated Judge Levinson signed the order, because corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga wanted more $$$-making litigation, and my ex with his seemingly never-ending supply of $$$ was out for blood. This paved the way for the most vicious legal abuse of all – a fraudulent custody switch to my ex, and complete loss of contact with my son, not even allowed to send a Christmas or Birthday card, or even have supervised visitation.

Cook Co. Third Municipal Court Rolling Meadows, IL

The lies he told in family court were the most sleazy imaginable, to the point where my highly-respected attorney Karen Conti stated “after a day in court on the Mehdipour divorce I feel like I need to go home and take a shower.” The most disturbing, was the day my ex took the witness stand under oath, actually claiming I tried to abort my son. Can you imagine how traumatic this was to hear, and to then feel like I had no choice but to contact my obstetrician, requesting a doctor’s letter stating the truth? What kind of a sick person even thinks something like that up in the first place???!!!

The fraud on the court in the family law case was so egregious, that most of the major players, including Judge Levinson, Child Rep Natalie Koga, and my ex’s lawyer Elliott Heidelberger all abruptly “retired” early, simultaneously, to avoid investigation. Meg Jackson changed her name to “Mary Elizabeth”, and moved her practice to Lake County.

My ex-husband told countless vicious, life-altering lies about me, causing my family and me immeasurable hurt and pain. And they were told with such apparent charm and ease.

I’ve also uncovered secret Post Office Boxes he kept while we were married. Everything truly was a big lie.

Welcoming immigrants is a value we Americans uphold. Especially immigrants that are honest, hard-working, and do whatever they can to give back to their welcoming host country, and try to make this a better place. But taking advantage of everyone’s kindness and small town naivete, through fraud and exploitation, are my ex-husband’s best and most prolific contributions to this country, his adopted homeland. How sad. And pathetic. My beautiful father-in-law would be so ashamed if he were alive today, to see the results of his hard work in sending his son to this country. So this begs the obvious question: What DIDN’T my ex-husband lie about?

IL Mom Sues Judge, Ex & GAL For $8M-The Complaints

Here is a copy of Ms. Hadzi-Tanovic’s Federal Complaint against ex-husband Slabodan Pavlovich, Associate Judge Robert W. Johnson, and former powerful attorney David Pasulka, who acted as the Guardian ad Litem on the Case. Pasulka also formerly headed a secret list of lawyers chosen for the highly lucrative appointments as GAL’s & Child Reps in Cook County Chicago. Recently, the IL ARDC finally acted to disbar Pasulka, after many years of ignored complaints. True to the pattern of bad judges and lawyers protecting one another through the IL ARDC, Judicial Inquiry Board, and the head judge offices, they only acted after significant publicity. Sadly, bad judges and lawyers continue causing serious harm to children and families on a routine basis, only facing consequences once the negative publicity finally becomes too great to ignore. In this case, the IL ARDC finally acted against Pasulka only after attorney Lawrence Thompson’s open letter calling for the resignations of Cook County’s head judges Tim Evans and Grace Dickler, for allowing Paulka to remain in power, was aired on CBS Channel 2 News. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2021/03/23/attorney-claims-top-chicago-judges-enabled-embattled-lawyer-david-pasulka-to-have-unchecked-power-in-selecting-family-lawyers/

“Aneta Hadzi-Tanovic, leader of the local Illinois Women’s Coalition, has filed an $8 million federal lawsuit against Family Court judge Robert Wade Johnson, the GAL, and her ex for conspiring to deprive her under the color of law of her right to due process and equal protection, as well as for the intentional torts “abuse of process” and “intentional infliction of emotional distress”.

Aneta’s custody nightmare mirrors women’s cases all over the country and world in which Family Court judges disregard substantial negative evidence about the father, and fabricate negative evidence about the mother, in order to justify switching custody to the father.”  Mom Sues Judge, GAL and Ex For $8M In U.S. Federal Court

LAWSUIT COUNTS
1. Conspiracy to deprive of due process [42 U.S.C. §1983]
2. Conspiracy to deprive of equal protection under the law [42 U.S.C. §1983]
3. Abuse of process [intentional tort]
4. Intentional infliction of emotional distress [intentional tort]

IL Mom Sues Judge, GAL & Ex For $8M

“Aneta Hadzi-Tanovic, leader of the local Illinois Women’s Coalition, has filed an $8 million federal lawsuit against Family Court judge Robert Wade Johnson, the GAL, and her ex for conspiring to deprive her under the color of law of her right to due process and equal protection, as well as for the intentional torts “abuse of process” and “intentional infliction of emotional distress”.

Aneta’s custody nightmare mirrors women’s cases all over the country and world in which Family Court judges disregard substantial negative evidence about the father, and fabricate negative evidence about the mother, in order to justify switching custody to the father.”  Mom Sues Judge, GAL and Ex For $8M In U.S. Federal Court

Open Letter To Lost Children

Dear Greatly Loved, Missed and Cherished Children,

You may have come to this site looking for answers as to what has happened, how and why everything occurred the way it did.  The manipulations of the players in family court corruption, and their litigation therapy racket can be difficult to unravel.  If you are struggling to understand it, know that your comprehension skills are not at fault, because the corrupt players designed it that way.  Investigative Journalist Michael Volpe writes:  “…that’s where corruption thrives – when you can make a situation complicated.” Michael Volpe’s Analysis of My Case

Grandville, MAAt the end of the day, focusing on every minute detail of the web of corruption just takes time away from living our own lives, free from their exploitation.

We go on.  We must.  Sure, we are battle-worn, exhausted, grieving over all that was taken, perhaps traumatized, and deeply puzzled as to how people could act this way.  But the sad truth is, some people do.  It’s up to us not to let the actions of others define us.  We are NOT what THEY did to us.  We are not to blame for the misdeeds of others, and we shouldn’t ever live that way.  We should live free.  We should know our own worth.

Plant-in-Sunlight-864x577A child comes into the world in a state of innocence, and the right to this sovereignty of the self is the responsibility of adults to protect. This is our parental responsibility – to protect our children from awareness of adult problems, so they may develop age appropriately to maturity.  Your mother would have given her right arm to be allowed to protect you.  

Those who violate this right to an emerging consciousness are engaging in an act of extreme aggression.  Erasing your parent is child abuse. And children must be protected against abuse.  Any guilt over the situation lies squarely on the shoulders of all of the adults who were in charge.  Do not ever take it on – it doesn’t belong to you.  Throw it off of you, and live free.

vrijheidYou were a vulnerable child who deserved to be protected from adult hatred, adult issues, and the family court racket.  You deserved better.  How could a child ever be expected to stand against a group of adults? 

The members of the family court racket are good at what they do, because this is how they make a living.  They discovered that they didn’t have to work hard or have high standards in their professions, to make a huge pile of cash.  They do this all day, every day, every chance they get, to many people.  So if you’re struggling with why didn’t I see this coming, don’t.  Who they are and what they do is not normal.  So, no normal person could ever anticipate this.  These people are expert cons hiding behind their positions. Let that go.

As a result, you may have difficulty trusting others.  You may even find it hard to trust yourself.  But you should trust yourself.  It’s not your fault the adults let you down.

As you find your way out of this forest, know deep in your heart that you are importantYou matter!  You are worthy of the highest PRAISE for surviving it all, and you are very deeply loved.  Be proud of your inner strength!  Your great resilience!  You are a survivor!  “Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

You should also know you’re not alone.  Sadly, there are countless children who suffered like you, none of it their fault either.

1520610_10202361617074097_181679927_nSo, to any kids who may be reading this: please know that your mother grieves for you every day. She loves you with the fiercely protective, tender love of a mother’s heart.  A love you’ll never comprehend until you have children of your own.

She longs to hug you, and admire how you’ve grown.  To hear the sound of your voice, know your thoughts, and ideas.  She wants to cheer you on again!  She longs to celebrate holidays with you again, and cook your favorite foods. To share jokes, and hear your laughter.  To create new memories with you!  Mothers are like that. We love unconditionally.   We know none of this is your fault.  We’ve always known!

FB_IMG_1567190447684Our kitchens and homes are empty without you.  And we wait, hoping every day is the day we can reconnect with you. So please, if you are in this situation or know someone who is, tell your mother you love her.  She’s prayed for this every single day.

Take that first step. It may feel awkward, but it won’t be as hard as you think.  It’ll be worth it to reconnect all of your heart and soul’s missing pieces!

So, stand up, taking control of your own life, and love whoever you want to love! Life had some bitter trials, but it can be sweet again.  You can live free from the hatred and conflict of others.  It was never yours to begin with!

Just call her.  You’ll be glad you did.  Your mother is waiting with open arms.

 

 

 

Forest Bathing for Recovery From Trauma & The Litigation Therapy Racket, Lisa Nadig

MariaSoundOfMusicIn the opening scene of The Sound of Music, Maria sings “I go to the hills when my heart is lonely,  I know I will hear what I’ve heard before…”  The Sound of Music, Opening Scene  People have long known that being in nature is good medicine.  They didn’t need scientists or researchers to tell them that time spent outdoors, especially among trees, has countless health benefits.

Now science has caught up with this ancient wisdom.

Forest Bathing For Trauma Recovery  “Reconnecting to nature can be a powerful activity as part of trauma recovery and healing centered engagementPlaying in the dirt and walking barefoot heals us in infinite ways. Forests and natural landscapes expose us to healthy bacteria, sunshine, and phytoncides (chemicals released by trees that are known for their ability to improve our immune responses).  Forests decrease stress hormones and rumination and regulate our heart rate and blood pressure.”

Grandville, MAForest BathingForest bathing is based on an ancient Japanese cultural respect and reverence for the natural world and the interactions with the landscape that occur as a result. Shinrin-yoku (lit. “Immersion in the Forest Air”) is an experience that lets people be mindfully present with the surrounding forest. The sights, sounds and smells of the environment support and comfort each person as they literally “bathe” in the forest air.”

And for those of us who are survivors of Therapist Abuse by court shrinks paid for by the highest bidder, we know too well the trauma when these so-called “professionals” – the lawyers, court doctors, court therapists and hired gun evaluators –  trap and re-traumatize us in their lucrative litigation therapy racket.  Forcing a trauma victim to sit in their office re-living traumatic memories while they bill by the hour, scribbling their notes, writing false reports for corrupt Child Reps, Guardian Ad Litems, and guns for hire custody evaluators.  Because you are court-ordered to do it.  How convenient for them.

The survivors of the Rwandan genocide who famously kicked out the Western mental health practitioners further illustrates the damage talk therapy can do to trauma survivors.  “As the Rwandan, paraphrased by Solomon, puts it: “Their practice did not involve being outside in the sun where you begin to feel better. There was no music or drumming to get your blood flowing again. There was no sense that everyone had taken the day off so that the entire community could come together to try to lift you up and bring you back to joy. Instead they would take people one at a time into these dingy little rooms and have them sit around for an hour or so and talk about bad things that had happened to them. We had to ask them to leave.”  Exporting trauma: can the talking cure do more harm than good?

RollingMeadowsCtI’ll never forget the corrupt Child Representative Natalie Koga’s Machiavellian sneer, and her arrogant, fake, sing-songy, patronizing voice:  “Lisa, you just need to try har-der in ther-a-peeee”.  Have you completed your “treeeat-meeent”?  While she lied and abused me in court.  Met secretly with my ex.  Harmed my child. Exploited my family.  Natalie Koga Confronted With Eye-Witness To Her Corruption

Dr. Daniel Fisher, who wrote Natalie Koga’s made to order false reports, repeated his mantra, in his saccharin-sweet, pretending to care “therapist” voice:  “How’s your “therapy” going?”  Probing for anything to pounce on, all the while, working for the other side. Dr. Daniel Fisher’s Misconduct, With Michael Volpe

Twilightzone1959And who could ever forget Dr. Fisher’s disturbing, cringe-worthy performance for a packed courtroom during one of his several days of false testimony!

Bizarrely, finishing his star turn on the witness stand, taking center stage while raising his chest into a stiff military posture,  he faced my ex-husband directly.  Then, with a grand flourish, GAVE HIM A FULL MILITARY SALUTE RIGHT IN THE FRONT OF THE COURTROOM! 

He remained “at attention” for a full two seconds, then suddenly remembering himself, flustered, looking down, eyes darting about.  My ex-husband beamed with delight as Dr. Fisher tottered off  the “stage”.  Natalie Koga rewarded him by giving him even more inappropriate power and control over our lives.

As a treating therapist, it was against the law for Dr. Fisher to take on multiple roles.  But he used this as spring-board, becoming an unofficial parenting coordinator, custody evaluator, and suddenly in charge of all of the parties court ordered “therapy”.  Dr. Fisher already had a prior license sanction for the same misconduct in another case. Fisher_Redacted

Then there’s my ex’s hired gun custody evaluator Dr. Mark Goldstein.  My attorney had already caught Natalie Koga, Child Rep, and opposing counsel Meg Jackson conspiring to have him write a false report about me.  I felt like a lamb led to slaughter, while he crossed professional boundaries, plying me with inappropriate, sick questions.

tumblr_mu9qdnUdpk1rw872io4_500When I objected, he noted that I had an “anger problem”.  But his psychological testing showed the opposite, which of course he omitted from the custody evaluation, like the good little hired gun that he was.  When I showed the natural indignation of any normal, decent person to his disgusting questions, he wrote that I was “emotionally labile“.

And Judge Alfred Levinson’s perpetually red face from sipping out of his mystery container all day long, bellowing:  “Have you completed your therapy?” –  trying to make me look crazy – because the lawyers sitting up front waiting for their cases to be called saw his courtroom was a three ring circus. And the evidence I brought. Then Natalie Koga would lie some more – ignoring my therapy report as an excuse to label me uncooperative, and continue to completely bar any communication whatsoever between my son and I.

You see, just like Nurse Ratched in One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest, they aren’t in it to help people connect with their inner strength or heal from the trauma of abuse.  They aren’t there to cheer you on to re-build your life.

As hired gun crazy-makers, these “therapists” don’t encourage you to speak your own truth with confidence.   An empowered victim is the LAST thing they want.

They don’t advise you to walk on the beach, find the peace of the woods, garden, go barefoot savoring the cool grass between your toes, laugh, make art, go to concerts, further your education – or just take a break from endless talking about it – or anything else that challenges their power and control over their cash cows.

They WANT you continually stressed and traumatized.  They have no interest in your wellness.  They are not encouragers.

That would be counter-productive to the racket.

maxresdefaultThey are the bottom feeders of their professions who need you trapped, or they won’t have a job. 

Their JOB is to Gaslight the victim.  To put them off balance – to mess with their heads.  To re-traumatize them. 

To manufacture a “crazy label” for the victim in their Kids for Cash scam.  Hiding abuse, and keeping it going is big business.  And if they could, they would keep their cash cows trapped in their litigation therapy racket forever. 

After this pack of vicious predators got through with me, I understood how so many have been bullied to death in family court.  I went from being an award-winning professional opera singer singing in Carnegie Hall,  performing comfortably for two to three thousand people, to not even able to speak.  My brain knew what I wanted to say,  but I couldn’t make the words come out of my mouth.

10367137_811465682198562_816864177374600240_nI developed “Broken Heart Syndrome” with such severe chest pain,  I struggled with my teaching job.  I went from the woman doing it all, all the time – raising her child mostly alone, running a teaching studio, singing, and maintaining a large wooded property – to bed-ridden, after these vicious people finished running me through their Kids for Cash machine.

JoDaviessCountryI knew that in order to survive, I had to go back to the country.  I fell asleep listening to the music of crickets singing.  Walked my dog in the rolling, wooded hills with the sun on my face.

I basked in the warm embraces of those who knew me best – the people who I grew up with – my family, friends and community.  This was emergency care to a soul shattered by my ex and his gang’s constant drumming of the vicious lie that I was an outcast, so why not take everything away from me anyway.

I couldn’t hold a job anymore due to the trauma of the legal abuse.  They succeeded in their goal of completely destroying me.  So I worked when I could, sometimes only an hour per day, clearing weeds 6 feet high, started a garden, and slowly resurrected a friend’s old house that had been vacant for 10 years.  I thought by saving my friend’s old family home, I just might save myself in the process.

And I slowly regained my ability to speak.  It took two years.  I set about the arduous task of rebuilding a life that my ex-husband and his gang of ruthless financial predators did everything in their power to destroy.

Plant-in-Sunlight-864x577So, go to the woods.  Let the vast, majestic strength and beauty of a forest place it’s loving arms around you.  And dance out in the sun!  Kick your shoes off.  Plunge your hands into beautiful, dark earth, get it under your fingernails, and plant a garden. Sing around the campfire, enjoy a few beers, roast some hot dogs, and howl at the moon!  

If you live in a city, and have to drive to nature, do it.  Just Do it-You’ll be glad you did!  Even large cities have nature reserves, walking trails, botanical gardens, and parks for their citizen’s tired, frayed nerves!

The great naturalist, John Muir, “father of our national parks” said:

forest-bathing-2-e1556293782134“The mountains are calling and I must go.
The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest wilderness.
Between every two pines is a doorway to a new world.
Keep close to Nature’s heart… and break clear away, once in awhile, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.”