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Even More Of My Ex-Husband’s Fraud Uncovered, Lisa Nadig

#exposethecorruption #nataliekoga

I keep uncovering more of my ex-husband’s fraud and lies. Just when you think a person couldn’t possibly lie this much, you find more. It’s truly astounding. I can’t wrap my head around someone lying so much, committing so much blatant felony fraud – doing it all so effortlessly – to so many people.

I recently paid for a subscription to PACER, the online federal court records system. I looked up my ex’s bankruptcy, and sure enough he lied in that too. Case #: 1:15-bk-22226 He committed felony fraud with the lies that he filed in these court papers. He falsely claimed that his nearly $100k debt with divorce lawyer Meg Jackson was due to me trying to take away his visitation. He’s so good at the pity play – the poor victim act, but in fact, his debt was due to HIM aggressively re-litigating custody over and over again after it had been decided in my favor – in all he filed EIGHT petitions for Sole Custody. And it was HIM that took away completely any contact with my child.

Bankruptcy Court Dirksen Federal Building Chicago

I’m not sad that Meg Jackson (Now Mary Elizabeth) never got paid for all of her vicious legal abuse, bullying and harassment. She seemed more suited to a bar-room brawl, than a so-called dignified court of law. She lied so much for my ex-both in court and in the sleazy, schlocky crap she would file on his behalf. She clearly never verified any of his horrific, and ridiculous lies before she filed them.

Perhaps there is some justice in seeing the woman who bullied me mercilessly get stiffed. Jackson was the thug who sent me a cruel email immediately after my father’s death trying to keep me from his funeral. Perhaps she and my ex deserved each other.

He falsely claimed in his bankruptcy filing that he had been forced to pay my attorney’s fees of $22k. At no time did he ever pay my attorney’s fees-there was never such a court order entered! I WISH Judge Levinson would have followed the equal playing field laws and ordered him to pay my legal fees, then I wouldn’t have run out of money for a lawyer, and been thrown to the rabid wolves while trying to represent myself!

Bankruptcy Court Dirksen Federal Building Chicago

He also fraudulently concealed from the bankruptcy trustee his home purchase-the home where he currently resides in Hoffman Estates – by having someone else buy in his name, then as soon as the bankruptcy discharged, placing it in his own name.

It was impossible to stay ahead of his years-long, aggressive legal abuse and court stalking for three reasons:

1.) He was making over $100k per year at the time. (Of course he lied about his salary in the family court documents)

2.) He was exploiting my elderly, ill father who had Parkinson’s disease for over $60K, and eventually used his fraudulent custody switch to manipulate my father into signing over my share of our four generation family farm trust to him worth in the millions of dollars. Class 1 Felony, Elder Abuse: Financial Exploitation Of An Elderly Person With A Disability. https://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/fulltext.asp?DocName=072000050K17-56#:~:text=(b)%20Sentence.-,Financial%20exploitation%20of%20an%20elderly%20person%20or%20a%20person%20with,or%20more%20but%20less%20than

3.) He’s a lawyer kiter! He kept stiffing his lawyers – he went through six lawyers this way! Just like a check kiter, he scammed his own lawyers by kiting them, one after the other. Too bad in a place as big as Chicago, they never had the chance to meet each other to compare notes. He would hire one, pay a retainer, they would do work for him, he would stop paying, they would continue filing stuff against me while he made false promises to pay, until they got tired of working for free and withdrew, while he already had a new lawyer lined up to cycle through the same way. The biggest debt he refused to pay was his last lawyer, Meg Jackson-who now goes by “Mary Elizabeth”, and moved her law practice to Lake County. They fought each other in federal court when he illegally discharged her bill in his fraudulent bankruptcy.

I’ll never forget the day in family court when Meg Jackson filed her appearance, with his old attorney present representing the office of Jeffrey Leving, arguing to get paid. Meg Jackson was crying and whining on behalf of her new client to get the deranged, imbalanced and perpetually intoxicated Judge Alfred Levinson to sign an order forcing Jeffrey Leving’s office to release his case files they were holding – their attempt to make him pay. The easily-manipulated Judge Levinson signed the order, because corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga wanted more $$$-making litigation, and my ex with his seemingly never-ending supply of $$$ was out for blood. This paved the way for the most vicious legal abuse of all – a fraudulent custody switch to my ex, and complete loss of contact with my son, not even allowed to send a Christmas or Birthday card, or even have supervised visitation.

Cook Co. Third Municipal Court Rolling Meadows, IL

The lies he told in family court were the most sleazy imaginable, to the point where my highly-respected attorney Karen Conti stated “after a day in court on the Mehdipour divorce I feel like I need to go home and take a shower.” The most disturbing, was the day my ex took the witness stand under oath, actually claiming I tried to abort my son. Can you imagine how traumatic this was to hear, and to then feel like I had no choice but to contact my obstetrician, requesting a doctor’s letter stating the truth? What kind of a sick person even thinks something like that up in the first place???!!!

The fraud on the court in the family law case was so egregious, that most of the major players, including Judge Levinson, Child Rep Natalie Koga, and my ex’s lawyer Elliott Heidelberger all abruptly “retired” early, simultaneously, to avoid investigation. Meg Jackson changed her name to “Mary Elizabeth”, and moved her practice to Lake County.

My ex-husband told countless vicious, life-altering lies about me, causing my family and me immeasurable hurt and pain. And they were told with such apparent charm and ease.

I’ve also uncovered secret Post Office Boxes he kept while we were married. Everything truly was a big lie.

Welcoming immigrants is a value we Americans uphold. Especially immigrants that are honest, hard-working, and do whatever they can to give back to their welcoming host country, and try to make this a better place. But taking advantage of everyone’s kindness and small town naivete, through fraud and exploitation, are my ex-husband’s best and most prolific contributions to this country, his adopted homeland. How sad. And pathetic. My beautiful father-in-law would be so ashamed if he were alive today, to see the results of his hard work in sending his son to this country. So this begs the obvious question: What DIDN’T my ex-husband lie about?

Abusive Power And Control

The following is an excerpt of an excellent resource on Abusive Power And Control behaviors from Wikipeda. Please see the link at the bottom of this excerpt for the complete article. It does a great job of showing many of the power and control tactics used by abusive, controlling, and manipulative people in one short article. It is also helpful in that it lists what most would consider as “positive behaviors”, i.e. doing “nice things” for someone. Most articles on abuse, power and control, and coercive control focus on the overtly negative behaviors, but leave out these positive behaviors that are also used to coerce and control others.

However, it does omit Suicidality. Many abusive, controlling and manipulative people also use threats of suicide as a means of coercive control, emotional abuse and blackmail. These suicidal threats can be overt, or more subtle references to suicide, with a manipulative, controlling intent.

Abusive power and control (also controlling behavior and coercive control) is commonly used by an abusive person to gain and maintain power and control over another person in order to subject that victim to psychologicalphysicalsexual, or financial abuse. The motivations of the abuser are varied and can include devaluationenvy, personal gain, personal gratificationpsychological projection, or just for the sake of the enjoyment of exercising power and control.[1]

Controlling abusers use tactics to exert power and control over their victims. The tactics themselves are psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. Control may be exerted through economic abuse, limiting the victim, as they may not have the means to resist or leave the abuse.[2] The goal of the abuser is to control, intimidate, and influence the victim to feel they do not have an equal voice in the relationship.[3]

Manipulators and abusers often control their victims with a range of tactics, including, but not limited to, positive reinforcement (such as praisesuperficial charmflatteryingratiationlove bombingsmilinggifts, attention), negative reinforcement (taking away aversive tasks or items), intermittent or partial reinforcement, psychological punishment (such as naggingsilent treatmentswearingthreatsintimidationemotional blackmailguilt trips, inattention) and traumatic tactics (such as verbal abuse or explosive anger).[4]

The vulnerabilities of the victim are exploited with those who are particularly vulnerable being most often selected as targets.[4][5][6] Traumatic bonding (also popularly known as Stockholm syndrome) can occur between the abuser and victim as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change and a climate of fear.[7] An attempt may be made to normaliselegitimiserationalisedeny, or minimise the abusive behaviour, or blame the victim for it.[8][9][10]

Isolationgaslightingmind gameslyingdisinformationpropagandadestabilisationbrainwashing, and divide and rule are other strategies that are often used. The victim may be plied with alcohol or drugs or deprived of sleep to help disorientate them.[11][12] Based on statistical evidence, certain personality disorders correlate with abusive tendencies of individuals with those specific personality disorders when also compiled with abusive childhoods themselves. [13]

The seriousness of coercive control in modern Western societies has been increasingly realised with changes to the law in several countries so it is a definable criminal offence. In conjunction with this there have been increased attempts by the legal establishment to understand the characteristics and effects of coercive control in legal terminology. For example, on January 1, 2019, Ireland enacted the Domestic Violence Act 2018, which allowed for the practice of coercive control to be identifiable based upon its effects on the victim. And on this basis defining it as: ‘any evidence of deterioration in the physical, psychological, or emotional welfare of the applicant or a dependent person which is caused directly by fear of the behaviour of the respondent’.[14] On a similar basis of attempting to understand and stop the widespread practice of coercive control, in 2019, the UK government made teaching about what coercive control was a mandatory part of the education syllabus on relationships.[15] While coercive control is often considered in the context of an existing intimate relationship, when it is used to elicit a sexual encounter it is legally considered as being a constituent part of sexual abuse or rape. When it is used to begin and maintain a longer term intimate relationship it is considered to be a constituent element of sexual slavery.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abusive_power_and_control

Abuse By Proxy: From Smear Campaigns to 3rd Party Stalking & Abuse, by Sam Vaknin

If you find that you have been manipulated and used to harm someone, by being recruited into participating in Abuse By Proxy, a Smear Campaign, 3rd Party Stalking or Abuse, you should know that you too have been a victim.  The blame in this situation lies with the original manipulator & abuser.

Abuse By Proxy: From Smear Campaigns to 3rd Party Stalking and Abuse

“Everything you Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse – click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq…

Abusers often use other people to do their dirty work for them.   If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers — in short, third parties — to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs the same mechanisms and devices. (From the book “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” by Sam Vaknin – Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/the…)

The ideal proxy abusers are not only the victim’s very own family, and children –  because these wounds will hurt the victim the most, and they are the EASIEST to manipulate – but also the court system.  In my case, the abuser recruited corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga to engineer vicious legal and financial abuse – Court Stalking. It was Natalie Koga’s FIDUCIARY DUTY as Child Rep to protect my child from our documented abuser.  She instead, became one of my child’s biggest abusers, by refusing to protect him, throwing him to the wolves – the court shrinks with sanctions on their licenses, and isolating him completely.  She is directly responsible for all the harm my child and I suffered.  Doctors who witnessed my ex-husband’s abuse of my child informed me she refused to listen to them when they drove to her office. They stated that they sat in her office vigorously advocating for my child’s safety, and she was disrespectful, interrupting them several times, to the point where they were forced to talk over her to relay what they saw.  She hid their professional testimony from the court, as well as all the other evidence, so that she and her friends could profit from the pain and suffering of my only, irreplaceable, precious child.  She is a criminal and a psychopath.  Sadly, once she was forced to give up her law license in Chicago, she went to Arizona and got hired as a “Social Worker/Guardian” in Coconino County.  Enriching herself on the pain and suffering of children is her life’s work.  She should be in prison – instead of being allowed to find new positions where she can harm people.

Our children have the inalienable right to their childhoods! They deserve so much more than having their only, irreplaceable childhood stolen and used as fodder by family court insiders and their cruel money-making racket. We must have accountability and oversight in our family courts, and put an end to their Kids for Cash schemes. All judges, lawyers and court vendors must be held accountable.“-Lisa Nadig

What Is Coercive Control?

Coercive control is dangerous to your mental health.  It is sneaky, insidious, manipulative, and ultimately very destructive.  These all-encompassing strategies to control someone’s realities, their personality, daily interactions may not seem to be like “real abuse”, but it is definitely very harmful.   The goal is to completely overpower you until you no longer remember who you are, until the abuser has complete control over every aspect of your life, and of your very identity.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/car.2611 When Coercive Control Continues To Harm Children Post-Separation