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Back To School With Stockton’s Very Own “Science Guy”, 45 year Stockton Science Teacher, Mr. Gary Underwood, by Lisa Nadig

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Back To School With Stockton’s Very Own “Science Guy”, 45 year Stockton Science Teacher, Mr. Gary Underwood, by Lisa Nadig

September 23, 2021, Stockton School Board Meeting, Stockton, IL:

It’s time we all took a refresher course, a review of lessons learned in Science Class. Here to help us all do that is 45 year Stockton High School Science Teacher, Mr. Gary Underwood.

Mr. Underwood accepted my invitation to address the School Board meeting. He began by clearing up the definition of the word Science: “Science is the search for truth. But now, this isn’t Science, it’s Political Science.”Mr. Underwood then gave a brief review on Viruses. He asked us: “Have any of you ever seen a virus?” When nobody responded that they had, he said “You need an electron microscope to see a virus.” Before Mr. Underwood concluded his refresher course on Science and Viruses, he looked around the gymnasium and said: “There isn’t a single mask in this entire place that could stop a virus.”

I would like to thank Mr. Underwood for taking the time to come address all of us, and give us a refresher course. It seems to me that “Science” is a word that’s become a political weapon, that it means whatever drives a certain financial or political agenda.

I’m also grateful to hear that Mr. Underwood is not afraid of viruses to the point he would sit home in total fear and isolation, or endorse reliance on a thin piece of cloth to feel “Safe”. Safe. Wow! Now that’s another word misused to create fear. How many times do you hear every week: “Stay safe!” If I hear someone tell me “Stay safe” when I want to go to the grocery store, or any public place, I know they’ve already drunk the Kool-aid, and think that living in fear is somehow a really great thing. I’m reminded of the genius, late comic Georg Carlin, and his classic comedy routine on “Germs” where he credits the raw sewage in the Hudson River where he swam as a child growing up in New York city for his powerful immune system. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_gLLZ_D1Lqw&t=23s

It seems to me that the School Board who voted to keep the Mandatory Masking of our children feel safe enough to pick and choose where they wear the mask. In a small community like Stockton, many Board members are seen regularly defying the Mask Mandate at sporting events, stores, restaurants and bars. Yet, they expect our kids to wear one for 7-8 hours every day at school. Very inconsistent, isn’t it. If they really thought the mask was keeping them safe, they’d never take it off, would they.

Franklin Delano Roosevelt once said: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” That’s as true today as it was when our country was facing the Great Depression, and World War II.

IL Mom Sues Judge, GAL & Ex For $8M

“Aneta Hadzi-Tanovic, leader of the local Illinois Women’s Coalition, has filed an $8 million federal lawsuit against Family Court judge Robert Wade Johnson, the GAL, and her ex for conspiring to deprive her under the color of law of her right to due process and equal protection, as well as for the intentional torts “abuse of process” and “intentional infliction of emotional distress”.

Aneta’s custody nightmare mirrors women’s cases all over the country and world in which Family Court judges disregard substantial negative evidence about the father, and fabricate negative evidence about the mother, in order to justify switching custody to the father.”  Mom Sues Judge, GAL and Ex For $8M In U.S. Federal Court

Open Letter To Lost Children

Dear Greatly Loved, Missed and Cherished Children,

You may have come to this site looking for answers as to what has happened, how and why everything occurred the way it did.  The manipulations of the players in family court corruption, and their litigation therapy racket can be difficult to unravel.  If you are struggling to understand it, know that your comprehension skills are not at fault, because the corrupt players designed it that way.  Investigative Journalist Michael Volpe writes:  “…that’s where corruption thrives – when you can make a situation complicated.” Michael Volpe’s Analysis of My Case

Grandville, MAAt the end of the day, focusing on every minute detail of the web of corruption just takes time away from living our own lives, free from their exploitation.

We go on.  We must.  Sure, we are battle-worn, exhausted, grieving over all that was taken, perhaps traumatized, and deeply puzzled as to how people could act this way.  But the sad truth is, some people do.  It’s up to us not to let the actions of others define us.  We are NOT what THEY did to us.  We are not to blame for the misdeeds of others, and we shouldn’t ever live that way.  We should live free.  We should know our own worth.

Plant-in-Sunlight-864x577A child comes into the world in a state of innocence, and the right to this sovereignty of the self is the responsibility of adults to protect. This is our parental responsibility – to protect our children from awareness of adult problems, so they may develop age appropriately to maturity.  Your mother would have given her right arm to be allowed to protect you.  

Those who violate this right to an emerging consciousness are engaging in an act of extreme aggression.  Erasing your parent is child abuse. And children must be protected against abuse.  Any guilt over the situation lies squarely on the shoulders of all of the adults who were in charge.  Do not ever take it on – it doesn’t belong to you.  Throw it off of you, and live free.

vrijheidYou were a vulnerable child who deserved to be protected from adult hatred, adult issues, and the family court racket.  You deserved better.  How could a child ever be expected to stand against a group of adults? 

The members of the family court racket are good at what they do, because this is how they make a living.  They discovered that they didn’t have to work hard or have high standards in their professions, to make a huge pile of cash.  They do this all day, every day, every chance they get, to many people.  So if you’re struggling with why didn’t I see this coming, don’t.  Who they are and what they do is not normal.  So, no normal person could ever anticipate this.  These people are expert cons hiding behind their positions. Let that go.

As a result, you may have difficulty trusting others.  You may even find it hard to trust yourself.  But you should trust yourself.  It’s not your fault the adults let you down.

As you find your way out of this forest, know deep in your heart that you are importantYou matter!  You are worthy of the highest PRAISE for surviving it all, and you are very deeply loved.  Be proud of your inner strength!  Your great resilience!  You are a survivor!  “Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

You should also know you’re not alone.  Sadly, there are countless children who suffered like you, none of it their fault either.

1520610_10202361617074097_181679927_nSo, to any kids who may be reading this: please know that your mother grieves for you every day. She loves you with the fiercely protective, tender love of a mother’s heart.  A love you’ll never comprehend until you have children of your own.

She longs to hug you, and admire how you’ve grown.  To hear the sound of your voice, know your thoughts, and ideas.  She wants to cheer you on again!  She longs to celebrate holidays with you again, and cook your favorite foods. To share jokes, and hear your laughter.  To create new memories with you!  Mothers are like that. We love unconditionally.   We know none of this is your fault.  We’ve always known!

FB_IMG_1567190447684Our kitchens and homes are empty without you.  And we wait, hoping every day is the day we can reconnect with you. So please, if you are in this situation or know someone who is, tell your mother you love her.  She’s prayed for this every single day.

Take that first step. It may feel awkward, but it won’t be as hard as you think.  It’ll be worth it to reconnect all of your heart and soul’s missing pieces!

So, stand up, taking control of your own life, and love whoever you want to love! Life had some bitter trials, but it can be sweet again.  You can live free from the hatred and conflict of others.  It was never yours to begin with!

Just call her.  You’ll be glad you did.  Your mother is waiting with open arms.

 

 

 

Happy Vengeful Father Syndrome Day!

FlowerBouquetHappy Mother’s Day to all the Moms out there screwed over by our woman-hating, abuser-loving, greedy, corrupt family courts.  Mothers are amazing! It takes a really remarkable woman to survive it all.  You are loved!♥♥♥You are appreciated!♥♥♥You matter!!!♥♥♥

Mother’s are givers of life, they are kind, they are strong, they nurture.  They teach us what the words family, love, honor, and sacrifice mean. They laugh, they cry just like you and I.  They create home. They guide, they mentor.  They are nutritionists, and meal planners. They nurse, they heal, they sit with you. They are advocates, brow wipers, huggers, hand-holders, and protectors.  They have style, they have grace. They create the human race.

They work hard, they put in long hours, they are industrious.  They sew, they mend and tend.  They garden, they shop.  They are home economizers, bill payers, cooks, and chauffeurs.  They are interior decorators,  activity coordinators, and innovators.  They tend to the animals, and all creatures under their roof.  They are witty, bright, and generous of purse, time, talents, and skills.

FB_IMG_1567190447684They forgive generously, repeatedly.  They are resourceful researchers, and education interfacers.  They are capable, and fun-loving.  They are birthday cake bakers and party makers. They plan, they coordinate, they budget, they tidy it all up. They are creative, they scurry, improvising on the spot.

Moms sparkle, they beautify!   They are teachers, they are psychologists, and mediators.  They discipline, they worry, they love unconditionally.  They support, they cheer you on no matter what.  They are determined.  They have grit, they are tough.

They are loyal, they are fierce.  They are temperature takers, medicine givers, appointment makers, and frequently sleep deprived.  They are devoted, they are steadfast.

They are career sacrificers.  They are the make do with what you havers – the thrift shop dress buyers, moving sale furniture shoppers, coupon clippers, and do-withouters.  They are the the vacations,  insurance and 401k go-withouters.

Handful of starsMothers create the beauty and magic of holidays!  They are keepers of traditions.  They are gift buyers and wrappers.  They clean, decorate and prepare.  They hostess, entertain, then they pack it all up again.  They are memory makers, and photo takers.  They remember anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions.  They are the card and gift senders.

They make you smile, they go ten extra miles!  They are loving, they are knowing and wise.  They are special, they are quirky, they are human. They are serious, they are funny, they don’t work for mere money.

1375635_10202963215273676_1558938398_nMothers are forever connected to their children at the most basic, fundamental,  core physical, cellular, mitochondrial, neurological, spiritual and emotional levels. They are all of this and so much more…they are your only, irreplaceable Mother!

♥♥♥So, to all the special, childless Moms out there – in case nobody’s told you lately – You are an amazing, terrific, remarkable, lovely, intelligent, strong, talented, resilient, breathtakingly beautiful woman!  All your work matters!  YOU MATTER!!!

♥♥♥HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!!♥♥♥

 

Justice For All Task Force, Detroit, 2/24/2020

“Victims of domestic violence and protective parents do not have equal access to justice nor do they have access to equal justice in our family courts in this State.”

Photo: Michigan Supreme Court-Chief Justice Bridget Mary McCormack, Justice Stephen J. Markman, Justice Brian K. Zahra, Justice David F. Viviano, Justice Richard Bernstein, Justice Elizabeth T. Clement, Justice Megan K. Cavanagh.

Justice For All Task Force – Michigan-Detroit, February 24, 2020

Brave Michigan Survivors of Domestic & Legal Abuse confront the reality that Mothers are not allowed to protect their children from abusive fathers, despite overwhelming, irrefutable evidence of abuse by the father.  That “father’s rights” trumps all, child safety, health & well-being doesn’t matter, the right of children to have their Mothers parent them doesn’t matter, the rights of Mothers to their own children do not matter in Michigan.  None of it matters and it must change now!!!!

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A Summary of My Case: Corruption, Legal/Financial Abuse, Maternal Deprivation, Elder Abuse, Cyber-stalking/Threats

#nataliekoga #exposethecorruption

UPDATE:  Corrupt Child Representative Natalie Koga, along with Judge Alfred Levinson & lawyer Elliott Heidelberger all abruptly, simultaneously gave up their lucrative lawyer & judge posts in Chicago to avoid investigation. Meg Jackson, who Koga was caught conspiring with, changed her name to “Mary Elizabeth” & moved her law practice to Lake County, Illinois.  Koga found a County Social Worker/Guardian job in Arizona.  Though she’s no longer licensed, Koga still lists herself as a lawyer in Chicago.  Meanwhile, Cook County Chicago’s “Sex For Custody” lawyer David Pisulka, who controlled the lucrative secret list of Guardian ad Litems & Child Reps, has finally been arrested and stripped of his law license, after years of the IL ARDC ignoring grievances filed.

Just hope Koga can find something else to do besides terrorizing mothers and children.”  A Chicago lawyer familiar with the case

heartOur beautiful life was stolen from us.  An innocent child was forced to finish growing up without his Mother, while I went from the Mom expected to do everything to not allowed to even send a Birthday or Christmas card.

This gang – this cabal – worked together in a well-orchestrated plan to use the custody case to steal my inheritance, and destroy every aspect of my life  to break me so I couldn’t defend myself.  Meg  (Now “Mary-Elizabeth”) Jackson (ex’s lawyer #6) was heard by Courth Watch outside the courtroom saying: “We’re going to take her down and take EVERYTHING from her.”  This counseling letter describes damage that the legal/financial abuse caused.  nadig-051915-ltrsfromcounselingcenter

I am a licensed Educator in good standing, never arrested or convicted of any crime, with no substance abuse, mental illness or any wrong-doing At the time of this case I was employed as a Nanny and Teacher.  I am still employed as a licensed teacher.

There are no DCFS findings against me. However, DCFS found that my ex-husband set up multiple false DCFS investigations. This was in the 604 and 604(b) custody evaluations by the highly respected Dr. David Finn. (604 custody evaluations are NOT chosen  by either parent, the opposite of a hired gun psychologist hired by one parent.)

How did Judge Alfred Levinson allow a group of Chicago lawyers to terrorize me through a tangled web of corruption & deceit, in tandem with exploiting my family farm estate?  The goal?  Steal my only, irreplaceable child along with my share of our four-generation, multi-million dollar Family Farm Trust.  (Though I am absolutely delighted that it provides for my child’s education anywhere he chooses.)

Their strategy?  A fraudulent litigation-vortex to run me out of money for an attorney, and switch custody, in order to “convince” (read: Exploit) my elderly, ill father that I somehow “deserved it.”  Elder Abuse/Financial Exploitation of this very high dollar amount is a Class 1 Felony.  Elder Abuse Statute, Illinois

sadteddybearIt’s illegal to continue filing custody motions within less than two years of a custody decision.  But Judge Levinson and Natalie Koga, Child Rep didn’t care.  My ex-husband filed EIGHT petitions for Custody, forcing my son and I into abusive litigation that lasted over six years, with countless harassing motions and delays so I would run out of money for representation.   Many hearings were set at the last minute so I would lose income.  Custody would no sooner be decided in my favor, when he would charge back into court with ever new and shifting allegations.  This made it impossible to earn a living. Verbal and emotional abuse, and physical intimidation by the attorneys became customary.

Judge Levinson’s courtroom was a lawless, free-for-all.  My child was forced to be constant fodder for Koga, my ex-husband’s parade of six unscrupulous attorneys and unethical court shrinks churning and charging the case.  It is well-documented that Domestic Abusers with money use the legal system to punish the victim for leaving.  And there is no shortage of unethical bottom-feeders harvesting victims to trap in their Litigation-Therapy Racket.

The law required Koga to promote mediation but she did the opposite because it was lucrative for her and her buddies.  “The child representative shall…encourage settlement and the use of alternative forms of dispute resolution. The child representative shall not render an opinion, recommendation, or report to the court and shall not be called as a witness, but shall offer evidence-based legal arguments.” from Illinois Statute, Child Reps   But she did all these things, to support my ex-husband’s hate campaign to erase me completely from my son’s life.

When my ex-husband erupted into his rages, she would step next to him to protect his image.   She refused to submit bills for court review.  She told blatant, horrific lies at nearly every court appearance.  Koga’s anger at the evidence I brought was Judge Levinson’s cue to turn over my legal filings and evidence, saying “I didn’t have time to read it.”  Judges are required by law to read all of the pleadings.  Their well-rehersed schtick was disturbing.

Koga engaged in wildly inappropriate behavior by forcing my son to hug her. She interfered with his medical treatment as reported by his Doctors, and assisted in the parental alienation by disparaging me in front of my son.  This was abusive and illegal. 

Koga should have been discharged as Child Rep at the entry of the Divorce/Custody fake-oath-made-dishonest-woman-lawyer-witness-behind-her-back-isolated-white-background-60101825Judgment in early 2012.  But at the last moment she demanded to “stay on free of charge” – her opportunity to churn and charge the case, and advocate for my ex-husband’s twisted campaign.  After they finally erased me from my child’s life, suddenly she produced an enormous bill, and continued adding to it!  Judge Levinson simply rubber-stamped it at the very last moment.  Michael Volpe’s Analysis of My Case

No system of care in America creates more devastation than the legal system. All but the wealthy are priced out of taking their cases to a point of closure.”  Dr. Karin Huffer  Legal Abuse Syndrome, Dr. Karin Huffer

There was no Evidentiary Hearing –  THEY DID NOT SUBMIT ANY EVIDENCE AT ALL!  A No Contact Order barked out by a completely unbalanced and unhinged Judge Levinson was quickly scrawled in a hastily convened “Emergency Hearing” that lasted no more than 15 minutes, (I received an e-mail at 4:45 pm while I was at my Nanny job, summoning me to a hearing the following morning at 9 am.)  My legal rights to respond, get an attorney, present evidence, request Discovery or even speak were denied. 

The means? Fraud On The Court through an outside attorney (paid for by my ex- husband-James M. Kelly of Palatine) with no legal standing to appear.  He claimed to have “evidence”, which he “demonstrated” in a sleazy, theatrical, over-the-top Pantomime, but never actually entered into evidence.

Koga also read aloud one of Dr. Fisher’s false reports.  There was no opportunity to cross-examine him or even view his report  as required by the Rules of Evidence.  When Koga finished reading it aloud, she simply stuffed it in her briefcase.   Of course, once they ran me out of money for an attorney, they ignored all the laws, rules of evidence, and due process.

Dr. Fisher apparently thought he know more than the police who had already investigated.  A mandated reporter, if he really believed his false report he was legally required to report me to DCFS but he did not.  Why?  Because DCFS would have investigated and found the allegations to be false, as they already had several times before! And, DCFS requires reunification services to parents.  Dr. Daniel Fisher’s Misconduct, With Michael Volpe

Within fifteen minutes, I went from Mother, Primary Caretaker and Sole Legal Custodian, to losing most of my parental rights, not even allowed to send a Christmas or Birthday Card.  This “proceeding” consisted of me standing alone, not allowed to even speak, while my ex-husband and three lawyers (including an outside attorney, James M. Kelly, hired by my ex, who had no standing to appear in the case, no appearance filed), shouted a bizarre, incoherent stream of insane insults and hearsay.  That was it.  No evidence proffered at all.  Months later I finally got to view this “evidence”  – a darkened, murky cell-phone photo that had clearly been doctored.  Convicted felons have more legal rights than I did.

I believed in our American Justice System.  But I’ve been contacted by many respectable, decent people from across the country who report the same cruel tactics to make huge fortunes from the pain and suffering of innocent people like my son and I, endlessly routed and re-routed through this court insiders’ criminal money-making machine.  I’ve done court watch where glib attorneys handed bribes to giddy Guardian ad Litems right out in open court.  They didn’t even bother trying to hide it!

BribesFCShrinks with sanctions on their licenses were brought late into the case – Koga’s strategy to override the findings of one of the most highly respected custody evaluators in the state, Dr. David Finn’s evaluation recommending custody to me, with findings of Pathological Parental Alienation, Domestic Violence and family exploitation against my ex-husband.

Judge Levinson ignored the 604 and 604b (Court-ordered Forensic Psychologist Custody Evaluations) with findings of Pathological Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence against my ex-husband.  At Koga’s request, he court ordered “treatment” by Dr. Daniel P. Fisher, psychologist of Oak Brook, IL,  with sanctions on his license, Dr. Daniel Fisher’s Misconduct, With Michael Volpe, and Psychiatrist, Jonathan Gamze, MD, Arlington Hts., IL, whose controlled substance license was revoked and placed on indefinite probation  Dr. Jonathan Gamze Misprescribing/Overprescribing Drugs.  It is illegal for treating therapists to make custody recommendations – Dual Role Misconduct – but that’s exactly what they did.  And it is illegal to deny personal choice on medical providers.

Our original providers were caring, ethical and competent, and of course, had no sanctions on their license  They all reported to me how she would call them up trying to get them to write false reports about me!  They were eliminated because they refused to write them.

Court-Corruption-480pxWhen I could no longer afford an attorney, I stood alone, mute, not allowed to present evidence, while Koga and opposing counsel #6 Meg Jackson, stood together, insulting me, lying, all the while laughing, too many times to count.  This forced me to file my evidence into the court record through Affidavits.  It’s all in there, but wasn’t allowed to be presented in court.   They thought depriving a child of his Mother while demeaning her in public was amusing.  Judge Alfred Levinson joined in taking twisted pleasure in the cruel charade.

At Koga’s request, Judge Levinson wrote numerous illegal Orders that were impossible to comply with, including for several medical providers NOT covered by insurance for a total of $2K monthly out of pocket – the textbook definition of Litigation-Therapy Racket.  It was illegal to deny choice on medical providers and place such orders that were so financially burdensome they were impossible to comply with: the goal was to find me in Contempt of Court, with four failed attempts to throw me in jail.  The other goal with these orders was to label me “uncooperative.  However, I submitted multiple motions for relief from such orders, and freedom to choose providers covered by insurance, all denied – the textbook definition of the Litigation-Therapy racket.  A modern-day Kafka novel – nothing made sense, with intertwined lawyers and mental health vendors.  All the while salivating over my childhood home in Jo Daviess County, Illinois.

The best barometer of the tone and intent of this case is seen in Meg (now “Mary-Elizabeth) Jackson’s 07d21cdead32e6a1b808ad77e8f6d560vicious email sent LESS THAN ONE DAY after my elderly, ill father passed away at our family farm  – 150 MILES AWAY FROM JUDGE LEVINSON’S ROLLING MEADOWS, IL COURTROOM – TRYING TO BULLY ME INTO NOT ATTENDING MY FATHER’S FUNERAL!   Since when do divorce lawyers have any business trying to decide who goes to private family funeral?

Meg (now “Mary-Elizabeth”) Jackson was an abusive bully whose menacing fits of rage were designed not only to intimidate me, but also to compensate for her woeful lack of knowledge of the law and court procedure.  Levinson had to coach her the entire time.  She yelled in court that I was a brazen woman for requesting family therapy COVERED BY INSURANCE, as I  couldn’t afford $2,000/month medical expenses.

Yet Dr. Finn had recommended that my ex-husband be stopped from using our child to insert himself into my family!  Koga fought his recommendations to protect our child and stop exploiting my family.

Two Physicians stated Koga refused to listen to their reports that my ex was abusing our son and concealed those reports from the court.  This too is a crime!

And then there’s the eye-witness account of  Koga’s corruption – colluding with opposing counsel #6 Meg Jackson to persuade Dr. Mark Goldstein, (my ex’s hired gun evaluator) to defame my character in his report and switch custody.  Child Rep Natalie Koga Confronted With Eye-Witness To Her Corruption   

The Child Rep texted and met with my ex-husband, while refusing to communicate with me.  mehdipourtexts – Reza Mehdipour August Text    She entered and exited the courtroom and sat next to every single one of his attorneys.

This vicious legal bullying, where the destruction of innocent people is entertaining and the truth meaningless is deeply traumatic and should never be allowed to happen to anyone.  Ever.  And then I understood how Chris Mackney, and so many others have been bullied to death in family court. MackNeySuicideNote

It is interesting that much of the cyberstalking & threats were used to try to manipulate me to take this website down. But I will never be silenced by bullies.

ratsjumpsingshipIt is interesting that three key people from my case all abruptly “retired” around the same time. Judge Levinson retired a year early, around the same time as child representative, Natalie Koga (age 52), as well as Elliot Heidelberger. Levinson & Heidelberger both retired on the same day. Another attorney, Meg Jackson, was left off the ARDC lawyer registration for awhile, then came back with a different first name – “Mary Elizabeth”, and moved her practice to a different county.  “When a ship is sinking, rats jump ship.  So most likely, they were afraid of some inquiry by the ARDC (Attorney Registration & Disciplinary Commission, or JIB (Judicial Inquiry Board)  (and for the JIB, they made sure they were there long enough to collect their government pension.)  Most are not afraid of any inquiry because neither the ARDC or JIB really care about bad lawyers/judges.  They only care to get rid of those who make the profession look bad – that means either public (or soon to be made public) screwups, or those making the profession look bad by exposing the corruption.”  – A Chicago Attorney familiar with my case

Just hope Natalie Koga finds something else to do, instead of terrorizing mothers and children.” –Another Chicago Attorney familiar with my case

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Economic Justice for Wives and Mothers

“In what is being called an unprecedented ruling, a judge in Argentina has reportedly ordered a man to pay his ex-wife approximately $179,000 after she gave up her career for nearly three decades so she could clean the house and raise the kids.

Clarin Sociedad reports the unidentified 70-year-old woman struggled financially after the couple’s 2011 divorce while her husband continued to live well.

Man ordered to pay ex-wife $179K for child-rearing/housework

See also:  What’s a Mother Worth? by Lisa Nadig

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What’s a Mother Worth? by Lisa Nadig

FB_IMG_1567190447684As Mother’s Day weekend commences, many are excitedly gearing up for the holiday; cards, flowers and gifts being bought, precious gifts made at school secreted away, brunch reservations made, all is being made ready for the special day.  Some of us are celebrating, while others of us are grieving.  Those of us left to celebrate Mother’s Day in quiet solitude have time on our hands to reflect, and to ask probing questions.

For some, a Mother is priceless, more precious than the finest gold, emeralds or rubies, and the mere thought of assigning a dollar value to her is not only abhorrent, it is aburd.  I would agree; it IS absurd that we even have to go there in the first place.

But we do.  In a world where Mothers have become increasinginly expendable, disposable, where Mothering work is seen as “less than”, those of us who are, or who have been, on the Mommy-track have faced a rude awakening, and forced to ask ourselves this very question.

11831720_10205666797322884_149653450646472404_n“In 1979, a young attorney named Michael H. Minton successfully argued that a housewife was worth more than $40,000 a year. The public snorted and the press made fun, but the ramifications proved enormous. When the dust finally settled, the 33-year-old Chicago lawyer had catapulted matrimonial law into an entirely new arena.”  What’s a Wife Worth? Michael Minton

But here we are in 2019 – 40 years later – and how far have we REALLY come?  When the sheer enormity of the work of Mothering, and the importance of it, is still strategically devalued by some men, along with “father’s rights” attorneys and activists, who view divorce as a game of chess to be won at all costs?  When society has bought into the false notion that a woman really can, and should have it all-all the time?  When “men’s rights” and “father’s rights” become feel-good euphamisms for “screw the bitch” in divorce? Realizing, recognizing and documenting, not only the importance, but also the monetary value of Mothering work becomes even more fundamental and important.

Investing in the career of Motherhood is in direct conflict withTorn heart our materialistic, superficial, money-driven society.   How many of us have heard a stay-at-home Mom say out loud “I’m just a Mom”.  We’ve all been sold this notion that being a Mom is not for “smart women, educated or high-value women.”

What Wife and Mother, giving her all for years, suddenly confronts this sad reality when facing aggressive, gut-wrenching divorce tactics, as well as the Federal Fatherhood Funding driving child custody decisions, hasn’t had a cold slap to the face, and the gut-wrenching realization that their work apparently had no value all along, unbeknownst to them.  But Mothers are crying out:  “No! There is indeed great economic value to the work I do!”  Government’s Intentional Devaluation of Motherhood

Being a Surrogate Mother (becoming impregnated with someone else’s baby, going to doctor’s appointments, time off from work, giving birth, sometimes having a C-Section, medical after-care, then releasing the infant to the paying parents)  has a going rate!  Yes, there are wage calculations for the work of creating a human!

As someone who experienced “Morning Sickness” so severe that I had to be hospitalized 20130917-105004.jpgand put on IV fluids, along with several other complications, the thought of assigning a dollar value to this physical sacrificing is shocking at best.  But, here is a handy chart from one agency, West Coast Surrogacy.  A summary of costs:  Base Pay (Surrogacy and expenses) First-time $50,000; Experienced $60,000; Twins:  ad $5,000; Triplets add $10,000; C-Section, add $3,000; compensation for lost wages-actual cost; additional medical problems-$10,000.  Surrogate Mother Costs

Many of us have realized along our own divorce journey, that while Attorney Minton educated us all on the economic impact of a wife and mother’s work, that somehow we didn’t really get the message.  We thought it was “progress” to pressure women to have it all, all the time, and it is “for their own good” that they now work full-time outside of the home and full-time when they come home, and if a husband helps out when he has time, that’s okay.  Statistics showing the distribution amongst the sexes of hours spent on home and parenting labor hasn’t really changed!

blind_justice_thumb_400x453Many of us have also been confronted with the disturbing reality that women who can afford an attorney such as Michael Milton will come out of their divorce at least somewhat protected, without becoming impoverished, raked through the system, and children stolen.  Sadly, we learned the old adage still holds true: you get the justice you can afford.

Especially for those doing, or having done, this immense Mothering work, we know the dedication, the exhaustion, the emotional and physical investment in a job that has no vacation days, no “off-duty” time, and that a Mother’s career typically takes a big hit.  We have learned that we can spout all the feel-good rhetoric about shared or co-parenting we want, but the practical, day to day reality for most marriages, even today, is that Mothers still do the vast majority of parenting and housework.

But as is usually the case, if Mom has been the one expected to always take a day off for a sick child, has been the backbone of the house, while father focuses on building his career, and suddenly father and his divorce attorneys demand shared parenting,  and in too many instances, erase Mom altogether, any thinking, rational person would question whether those motives arose from a sudden, personal epiphany on the importantce of assuming a fair-share of parenting work, or is it something more calculated and self-serving.

But even with all of this ugliness, the dismissive attitude towards Mothers, and the fact that when a father fights for sole custody he wins 70% of the time, I still believe in Motherhood.  I still believe in the great importance and the immense value of this career.  If I were confronted with the same choice again, it wouldn’t change.  I would still choose this exasperating, exhausting, undervalued, demanding, joyful, life-changing, unpaid career.  I would still choose Motherhood.

FlowerBouquetSo, on this Mother’s Day, to the Mothers out there falling asleep with your newborn on your chest with the deepest joy, I acknowledge you.  To the Mother watching her child walk for the first time, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there with the flu while caring for the family, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there who think they’ll never get it right, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there working inside and outside the home, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there caring for children and aging parents at the same time, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there choosing to work inside the home, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there who have lost their children to death, I acknowledge you.  To the Mothers out there who have lost their children to Domestic Violence by Proxy and Court Corruption, I acknowledge you.  To all Mothers out there, I acknowledge you.

Handful of starsTo the children out there celebrating with your Mother this Mother’s Day, I acknowledge you.  To the children who have lost their Mothers to death, I acknowledge you.  To the children living long distances from their Mothers, I acknowledge you.  To the children out there separated from Mom at the border, I acknowledge you.  To the children out there missing a Mom erased by family court, I acknowedge you.  To the children out there wishing their Mother could have been better, I acknowledge you.  To the children out there just beginning to appreciate your own Mother after having children of your own, I acknowledge you.  To the children out there making their joyful school gift, I acknowledge you.  To all children out there, I acknowledge you.

Happy Mother’s Day to us all!

 

 

 

 

Radio Interviews

The freedom for all network…Blog Talk Radio, The Captain

Lisa Nadig, Michael Volpe & Doreen Ludwig discuss corruption in her “family” law case in Cook County Chicago

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thecapt/2015/09/24/the-captains-very-special-guest-lisa-nadig

 

 

Dr. Daniel P. Fisher & The Litigation Therapy Racket, With Michael Volpe

“When a court ordered professional begins working for one side, as Dr. Fisher clearly was in this case, it is the worst of both worlds. You have a hired gun with the veneer of independence. It is something I have seen and documented repeatedly. Dr. Stanton Samenow, not only in Chris Mackney’s case, would come in as a so-called independent arbiter but end up communicating, and often being paid, exclusively with one side. He would pretend as though his so-called expert opinion was objective while being bought and paid for and that’s what it appears happened in this case as well.

Not only with Dr. Fisher, but Natalie Koga and others in this case. The veneer of independence is one of many reasons why I believe all court ordered professionals should be outlawed immediately. They are not merely a waste of hundreds of thousands of dollars but counter-productive and often actively work to create conflict in cases in order to justify their continued involvement.”Michael Volpe, Author of Bullied To Death: Chris Mackney’s Kafkaesque Divorce

Dr. Fisher was reprimanded by the State of Illinois for Dual Role Misconduct in a prior case.  “The foregoing acts and/or omissions are violations of the “Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct”  Fisher_Redacted

The APA Ethics Code Standard 3.05 states that “psychologists should refrain from entering into multiple relationships…or otherwise risks exploitation or harm to the person with whom the professional relationship exists.”  But exploitation and harm is the strategy for these court shrinks for hire.

 It is considered unethical to switch back and forth between an evaluative and psychotherapeutic role,” David Stein, Ph.D., chair of the Forensic Psychology Committee of the California Psychological Association.

tumblr_mu9qdnUdpk1rw872io4_500We survivors of Therapist Abuse by these court shrinks for hire by the highest bidder, know full well the severe trauma when these so-called “professionals” – the lawyers, court doctors, court therapists and hired gun evaluators –  trap and re-traumatize us in their lucrative litigation therapy racket.

Forcing a trauma victim to sit in their office re-living traumatic memories against their will,  while they bill by the hour, scribbling their notes, writing false reports for corrupt Child Reps, Guardian Ad Litems, and guns for hire custody evaluators.

Because the victims of this racket are court-ordered to be there.  They did not choose these low rung of the ladder providers with sanctions on their licenses for themselves.  How convenient for them to have such an endless supply of guaranteed paying clients, provided by family court. The truth of the matter is, they need you trapped, or they won’t have a job.

BribesFCDr. Daniel Fisher, who wrote Natalie Koga’s made to order false reports, repeated his mantra, in his saccharin-sweet, pretending to care “therapist” voice:  “How’s your “therapy” going?”  Probing for anything to pounce on, all the while, working for the other side. 

 

Twilightzone1959And who could ever forget Dr. Fisher’s disturbing, cringe-worthy performance for a packed courtroom during one of his several days of false testimony!

Bizarrely, finishing his star turn on the witness stand, taking center stage while raising his chest into a stiff military posture,  he faced my ex-husband directly.  Then, with a grand flourish, GAVE HIM A FULL MILITARY SALUTE RIGHT IN THE FRONT OF THE COURTROOM! 

He remained “at attention” for a full two seconds, then suddenly remembering himself, flustered, looking down, eyes darting about.  My ex-husband beamed with delight as Dr. Fisher tottered off  the “stage”.

He should have bowed and curtsied too!   This, my friends, is one of the many ways the players in the litigation therapy racket show their true colors, and why Cook County Chicago will not allow videotaped transcripts.

As hired gun crazy-makers, these therapists don’t encourage you to speak your own truth with confidence.   An empowered victim is the LAST thing they want.

WalkingBeachThey don’t want you to walk on the beach, go to the woods, garden, go barefoot savoring the cool grass between your toes, rest, laugh, make art, or just take a healthy break from abusive talk therapy used against you in false reports paid for by the other side –  or anything else that challenges their power and control over their cash cows. 

They have no interest in your wellness.  They are not encouragers.  That would be counter-productive to the racket.

You see, just like Nurse Ratched in One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest, they aren’t in it to empower people to connect with their own inner strength.  They aren’t in this helping profession to help.  They are in it to harvest victims.

Their JOB is to Gaslight the victim.  To put them off balance – to mess with their heads.  To re-traumatize them.

To manufacture a “crazy label” for the victim in their Kids for Cash scam.  Hiding abuse, and keeping it going is big business.  And if they could, they would keep their cash cows trapped in their litigation therapy racket forever.  

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Dr. Daniel Fisher’s Misconduct, with Michael Volpe

“When a court ordered professional begins working for one side, as Dr. Fisher clearly was in this case, it is the worst of both worlds. You have a hired gun with the veneer of independence. It is something I have seen and documented repeatedly. Dr. Stanton Samenow, not only in Chris Mackney’s case, would come in as a so-called independent arbiter but end up communicating, and often being paid, exclusively with one side. He would pretend as though his so-called expert opinion was objective while being bought and paid for and that’s what it appears happened in this case as well. Not only with Dr. Fisher, but Natalie Koga and others in this case. The veneer of independence is one of many reasons why I believe all court ordered professionals should be outlawed immediately. They are not merely a waste of hundreds of thousands of…

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