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From Mom & Music Teacher to Legal Abuse Syndrome, Lisa Nadig

How did I come to be one of the “walking wounded”, suffering from a variant of Post-Traumatic Stress known as Legal Abuse Syndrome?  How did I go from the Mom who did everything to not even allowed to send a birthday card?  How did lawyers in Chicago exploit my elderly, ill father living 150 miles away on our four generation family farm?  Every area of my life has been severely impacted by the vicious Legal Abuse and bullying I was subjected to for nearly seven years in the Cook County Family Court system.  The goal?  Steal my only, irreplaceable child along with my share of our four-generation, multi-million dollar Family Farm Trust.  The strategy?  Use Fraud On The Court and an abusive litigation-vortex to obtain a custody switch, in order to convince (read: Exploit) my elderly, ill father that I somehow “deserved it.”  In all, my ex-husband was allowed to file eight petitions for Sole Custody, litigating custody repeatedly for over six years.  I was forced into court so frequently that it became impossible to earn a living.  It is common knowledge Domestic Abusers with access to money frequently use the legal system to leave their victim homeless, penniless and childless as revenge for leaving them – the “Price for Saying No”.  And there is no shortage of ethically-challenged individuals plying their various trades in the courtrooms ready to make a fortune off of the misery of others, their Professional Code of Ethics be damned.  

“No system of care in America creates more devastation than the legal system. All but the wealthy are priced out of taking their cases to a point of closure. You can win your case and then lose by expensive appeals. Anger and disappointment reach a point beyond rage to an implosion that injures the psyche of the strongest of us. Attorneys rank among the highest in substance abuse, depression, suicide and unhappiness with their profession. Litigants who enter with any illness, injury, or weakness are made worse by stress, sometimes terrorized and bullied.”  Dr. Karin Huffer  Legal Abuse Syndrome, Dr. Karin Huffer

I was the Primary Caretaker and a very loving, involved, hands-on, full-time Mom. I was such an excellent Mother, in fact, that my ex-husband refused to help with parenting in order to further his career, and his first divorce petition requested that custody remain with me.

I am an Educator in good standing.  I have never been arrested or convicted of any crime. There is no substance abuse, mental illness or any wrong-doing on my part.  There are no findings against me by Child Protective Services, nor was any report made.  To the contrary; there are DCFS findings against my ex-husband.  There was no Evidentiary Hearing – no evidence was submitted at all, when a hastily scrawled No Contact of Any Kind Order was obtained in a hastily convened “Emergency” hearing, that did not allow me to respond, get an attorney, present evidence, request Discovery or even speak.  The means? Fraud On The Court, and hearsay brought by an outside attorney with no standing to appear in the case.  He claimed to have “evidence”, which he “demonstrated” in a sleazy, theatrical, over-the-top Pantomime, but never actually presented.  Within fifteen minutes, I went from Mother, Primary Caretaker and Sole Custodian, to losing most of my parental rights, not even allowed to send my child a Christmas or Birthday Card.  This “proceeding” consisted of me standing alone, while my ex-husband and three lawyers and judge shouted a bizarre, incoherent stream of insane insults and hearsay.  That was it.  No evidence proffered.  At all.  Months later I finally had the opportunity to view this “evidence”; it was a single murky cell-phone photo that had clearly been doctored with a cell-phone editor.  Indeed, convicted felons have more parental rights than I did.

I believed in our American justice system.  I thought Judges were prudent, emotionally-balanced, scholarly people who meticulously weighed evidence and law.  But I learned that gamemanship is what passes for legal expertise. Perjury and False Reporting, back-room deals, cronyism and corruption were expected – just “the way things work”.  Verbal and emotional abuse, and at times, physical intimidation, by the attorneys became common-place.  The more tawdry or sleazy the lies, the better, and more entertaining it seemed to be for Judge Levinson, the Child Rep Natalie Koga, and all six of my ex-husband’s attorneys, and of course, never questioned.  

 It was shoddy, disturbing theater of the absurd and macabre. False reporting by court vendors – shrinks in disrepute with some serious ethics issues, brought late into the case by the Child Rep, when I no longer had funds for an attorney, became the strategy to wipe out highly respected Dr. David Finn’s two custody evaluations containing serious findings of Pathological Parental Alienation, Domestic Violence and family exploitation against my ex-husband.  Both of these new court vendors had been sanctioned by the State of Illinois;  the Psychologist, Dr. Daniel Fisher of Elmhurst for similar “Multiple-Role Misconduct”, while the Psychiatrist, Dr. Jonathan Gamze had his controlled substance license revoked and placed on indefinite Probation.  

When I could no longer afford an attorney, I stood alone and mute, not allowed to present evidence, while Child Rep Natalie Koga and opposing counsel Meg Jackson stood together, insulting me, repeatedly lying to the court, all the while laughing.   Apparently they thought depriving a child of his Mother was pretty funny.  Judge Alfred Levinson allowed, enabled and encouraged this horrific, abusive behavior, at times appearing to get off on it too.  

I was placed under multiple Orders that they knew would be impossible to comply with.  Many were illegal.  The obvious goal was to find me in Contempt of Court.  As part of their ongoing strategy to break me, they tried (unsuccessfully) to jail me on four occasions.   It was a modern-day Kafka novel – double-bind after double-bind, nothing made sense, with intertwined lawyers and mental health vendors willing to say or do just about anything as long as the checks cleared, their respective professional code of ethics be damned.  All the while salivating over my childhood home in northwest Illinois.

The most telling barometer of the tone, tenor and intent of this entire divorce and child custody case can be summarized by the e-mail my ex’s attorney Meg Jackson sent me less than one day after my elderly, ill father passed away in my rural hometown in northwest Illinois – 150 miles away from that Rolling Meadows Courthouse.  This was her attempt to bully me into not attending my own father’s funeral.   This is the same woman who yelled that I was a “brazen woman” for daring to ask the court that we be allowed to have family therapy with someone who actually took insurance, as I could not afford $2,000 monthly on medical expenses, and who stood outside the courtroom proclaiming “We’re going to take her down.  We’re going to take everything from her.”  And yet, Dr. Finn’s custody evaluation had recommended that my ex-husband be stopped from using our child to repeatedly insert himself into my family.

And, then, of course, there is the eye-witness account of the Child Rep Natalie Koga colluding with Meg Jackson to alter an evaluation – to get rid of “the problem” (me, a loving Mother).  This vicious legal bullying, where the destruction of innocent people is seen as entertaining, the truth is meaningless, and nothing you do, no matter how hard you try, has anything to do with anything, is deeply traumatic and should never be allowed to happen to anyone.  Ever.  And then I understood why Chris Mackney, and so many others have taken their lives after being bullied to death in family court.  But I hung on, not for myself, but for the sake of my beloved child.  I will continue to be a voice calling for reform, accountability for Guardian ad Litems, Child Representatives, for Judges, and all court vendors.  I will continue to speak out about the devastation wrought on countless people in courtrooms every day.  I will continue to speak about the harm done to our precious children through the abuse of Maternal Deprivation.

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Why Family Courts and CPS Target Fit Parents, by Patricia Mitchell

By Patricia Mitchell

Rich, poor, middle class – no child in America is safe. These words of award-winning investigative journalist Keith Harmon Snow (author of The Worst Interests of the Child) refer to the abusive practices that regularly occur within the Family Courts and Child Protective Services (CPS) Courts. On their watch, each year hundreds of thousands of children suffer from abuse (including rape and prolonged torture) that would not have happened without this court system’s initial invasion and subsequent entrapment.

Removing children from their homes, separating children from parents, and creating conflict within the family unit is good business for the judicial officials and has become what the Family and CPS Courts do best.

Court officials heavily profit from these induced conflicts. They have learned how to milk the system for financial gain, by targeting the protective (fit) parent instead of the abusive (unfit) parent, resulting in children getting placed with pedophiles, sadistic sociopaths, and narcissists, in life-threatening environments. Although “the State” will pay the court officials if a low income or poor family is involved, the system forces protective parents who are middle class or wealthier to foot the bills for all court services. Either way, rich or poor, court officials have made a big business out of family conflicts, using children as currency.

Why would the courts target a fit parent instead of an unfit parent? Because there is no money to be made off of the unfit one. The Family and CPS Courts require one parent willing to participate with them, to care about the child’s well being and, most importantly, to make a commitment to the courts. Protective parents will do anything and everything the courts demand of them. Whereas abusive parents are more likely to give in after the court system’s first hurdle, demand, or when he/she sees the bills, simply saying, “Fine, take the child.”  Why Family Courts and CPS Target Fit Parents

“Reactive Abuse”/They call you abusive for reacting to their abuse”

“A very common aspect of psychological abuse and manipulation is for the abuser to claim that the victim is being abusive towards them. I’ve written about the abusers “victim complex”, and “gaslighting” in this manner before.
But right now I want to address the specific scenario in which the victim snaps at the abuser. They endure and endure, they have been told that there is nothing to react to, they have been told they overreact to everything, so they are afraid to mention their hurt, and confusion, and cannot acknowledge they are being abused. 
The endure so much for so long, they snap. They scream at the abuser. Insult them. Maybe even throw in a low-blow or unfair insult. They may even physically attack, although this is very very uncommon in victims of abuse. 
The abuser jumps on this reactionary outburst. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is unstable. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is the abuser after all. They can hold it up, and hold it against the victim for as long as they can, and as hard as they can. 
The abuser turns the roles, and paints themselves as the victim.””

 

from:  They call you abusive for reacting to their abuse

Reform family law courts – hold judges, GALs, attorneys and court VENDORS accountable with REAL punishment when they break the law, violate mandated duties or when their actions cause HARM

Reform family law courts – hold judges, GALs, attorneys and court VENDORS accountable with REAL punishment when they break the law, violate mandated duties or when their actions cause HARM!

Easter Blessings To Those Separated From One Another Due to Family Court Corruption

Stay Strong.  Love Wins.  Truth always eventually comes out.  Karma works, and selfish, evil people will face their Maker one day.  In the end, though they made their pile of cash, they cannot sever your Bond.

Dishonorable Ronald Grensky, A Poor Example Of A Judge

By Joseph Snook
Investigative Reporter

Medford, OR – Out of the twenty-seven judicial districts for the State of Oregon, Judge Grensky ranks in the bottom 2% of all judges according to The Robing Room, an online website that publicly reviews Oregon Judges. Out of the 173 Circuit Court Judges in Oregon, there are only three Judges with worse ratings than Grensky. Notably, almost half of Judge Gresky’s poor reviews are from attorney’s. The Oregon Court of Appeals is currently looking into how many cases Grensky has had overturned. And now, Grensky’s judicial authority has come into question yet again.

Grensky’s most recent miscarriage of justice took place in an ongoing child custody case between Christi MacLaren and her ex, Sean Lenzo, over their six-year-old daughter.


Christi with her daughter

Judge Grensky removed custody from Christi on Oct. 13, 2015 (Judge Grensky formally granted status quo custody on May 19, 2016, although daugther has been with Lenzo since Oct. 13, 2015) when Department of Human Services (DHS) Child Caseworker, Cori McGovern, testified that Chirsti had mentally abused her own daughter. Christi had previously reported that Sean Lenzo (biological father) had rubbed, “magic cream” on her daughter’s vagina in a really fast motion until bleeding/severe burning occurred – this according to her daughter. Next, the young girl reportedly claimed Lenzo took a picture of her vagina while it was bleeding, eventually showing her the photo as he laughed. This allegation, while cruel in nature, might not be “sexual” as originally reported.

 

Dishonorable Joudge Ronald Grensky, A Poor Example of a Judge

Coming Soon: Timeline & Catalogue Of Judge Alfred Levinson’s Illegal Orders In This Case

Coming soon:  a time-line & catalogue of Judge Alfred Levinson’s illegal orders in this case.  Rolling Meadows Cook County, Ilinois.  Case #09 D 331 278

Judge Levinson said he didn’t care because he’d be retiring soon.  Investigative Journalist Michael Volpe had this to say:  “Other than complicating an already complicated situation, what purpose did appointing the child rep Natalie Koga serve, when you’ve already had a custody evaluation and CPS looked at it and they determined who the problem parent was?  The child representative was the third or fourth court professional to be assigned to this case and besides making an already complicated matter even more complicated having so many court professionals holds no logical purpose.  Because that’s where corruption thrives – when you can make a situation complicated.  Dr. Stanton Samenow, not only in Chris Mackney’s case, would come in as a so-called independent arbiter but end up communicating, and often being paid, exclusively with one side. He would pretend as though his so-called expert opinion was objective while being bought and paid for and that’s what it appears happened in this case as well. Not only with Dr. Fisher, but Natalie Koga and others in this case. The veneer of independence is one of many reasons why I believe all court ordered professionals should be outlawed immediately. They are not merely a waste of hundreds of thousands of dollars but counter-productive and often actively work to create conflict in cases in order to justify their continued involvement.”– Michael Volpe, Author of Bullied to Death: Chris Mackney’s Kafkaesque Divorce