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Abuse By Proxy: From Smear Campaigns to 3rd Party Stalking & Abuse, by Sam Vaknin

If you find that you have been manipulated and used to harm someone, by being recruited into participating in Abuse By Proxy, a Smear Campaign, 3rd Party Stalking or Abuse, you should know that you too have been a victim.  The blame in this situation lies with the original manipulator & abuser.

Abuse By Proxy: From Smear Campaigns to 3rd Party Stalking and Abuse

“Everything you Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse – click on this link:…

Abusers often use other people to do their dirty work for them.   If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers — in short, third parties — to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs the same mechanisms and devices. (From the book “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” by Sam Vaknin – Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships:…)

The ideal proxy abusers are not only the victim’s very own family, and children –  because these wounds will hurt the victim the most, and they are the EASIEST to manipulate – but also the court system.  In my case, the abuser recruited corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga to engineer vicious legal and financial abuse – Court Stalking. It was Natalie Koga’s FIDUCIARY DUTY as Child Rep to protect my child from our documented abuser.  She instead, became one of my child’s biggest abusers, by refusing to protect him, throwing him to the wolves – the court shrinks with sanctions on their licenses, and isolating him completely.  She is directly responsible for all the harm my child and I suffered.  Doctors who witnessed my ex-husband’s abuse of my child informed me she refused to listen to them when they drove to her office. They stated that they sat in her office vigorously advocating for my child’s safety, and she was disrespectful, interrupting them several times, to the point where they were forced to talk over her to relay what they saw.  She hid their professional testimony from the court, as well as all the other evidence, so that she and her friends could profit from the pain and suffering of my only, irreplaceable, precious child.  She is a criminal and a psychopath.  Sadly, once she was forced to give up her law license in Chicago, she went to Arizona and got hired as a “Social Worker/Guardian” in Coconino County.  Enriching herself on the pain and suffering of children is her life’s work.  She should be in prison – instead of being allowed to find new positions where she can harm people.

Our children have the inalienable right to their childhoods! They deserve so much more than having their only, irreplaceable childhood stolen and used as fodder by family court insiders and their cruel money-making racket. We must have accountability and oversight in our family courts, and put an end to their Kids for Cash schemes. All judges, lawyers and court vendors must be held accountable.“-Lisa Nadig

Justice For All Task Force, Detroit, 2/24/2020

“Victims of domestic violence and protective parents do not have equal access to justice nor do they have access to equal justice in our family courts in this State.”

Photo: Michigan Supreme Court-Chief Justice Bridget Mary McCormack, Justice Stephen J. Markman, Justice Brian K. Zahra, Justice David F. Viviano, Justice Richard Bernstein, Justice Elizabeth T. Clement, Justice Megan K. Cavanagh.

Justice For All Task Force – Michigan-Detroit, February 24, 2020

Brave Michigan Survivors of Domestic & Legal Abuse confront the reality that Mothers are not allowed to protect their children from abusive fathers, despite overwhelming, irrefutable evidence of abuse by the father.  That “father’s rights” trumps all, child safety, health & well-being doesn’t matter, the right of children to have their Mothers parent them doesn’t matter, the rights of Mothers to their own children do not matter in Michigan.  None of it matters and it must change now!!!!