“A very common aspect of psychological abuse and manipulation is for the abuser to claim that the victim is being abusive towards them. I’ve written about the abusers “victim complex”, and “gaslighting” in this manner before.
But right now I want to address the specific scenario in which the victim snaps at the abuser. They endure and endure, they have been told that there is nothing to react to, they have been told they overreact to everything, so they are afraid to mention their hurt, and confusion, and cannot acknowledge they are being abused.
The endure so much for so long, they snap. They scream at the abuser. Insult them. Maybe even throw in a low-blow or unfair insult. They may even physically attack, although this is very very uncommon in victims of abuse.
The abuser jumps on this reactionary outburst. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is unstable. They claim it is “proof” that the victim is the abuser after all. They can hold it up, and hold it against the victim for as long as they can, and as hard as they can.
The abuser turns the roles, and paints themselves as the victim.””
A legislative commission on Thursday approved several state programs it would like the Legislative Auditor to evaluate, including the health department’s Office of Health Facility Complaints and the Minnesota Guardian ad Litem program, both subjects of 5 EYEWITNESS NEWS Investigations in November.
The Office of the Legislative Auditor said its evaluation will look into management, governance, oversight and processes of specific program areas.”
Reform family law courts – hold judges, GALs, attorneys and court VENDORS accountable with REAL punishment when they break the law, violate mandated duties or when their actions cause HARM!
Stay Strong. Love Wins. Truth always eventually comes out. Karma works, and selfish, evil people will face their Maker one day. In the end, though they made their pile of cash, they cannot sever your Bond.