Targeted/Rejected Parents Speak Out

20130917-103628.jpg  ” I feel despair, and a little horror. It bothers me that the country I live in is a place where something like this could happen”

” I am just a simple man. It is hard to stay ahead of the life altering lies spewing from them.”

“This broke my heart. I wish no one else has ever had to feel this pain.  One person shattered is enough.”

” Losing my only son has been almost more than I can bear.”

“Why do parents have to spend their life savings in order to have the right to love their  children?”

“I’m in a living nightmare, Something deeply precious was stolen, I’m in ongoing grief and despair, Unbidden tears awash again and again, Never any idea what to do, or what to say, Everything is used against me, the rules are unfair”

“All three psychologist evaluations found Parental Alienation, even my ex’s “hired gun”.   The Court promised to address it, but in the end, the court just allowed Many people to get rich, and did the exact opposite of what was promised.   I am devastated, heart-broken and worry for my child all the time.”

“Today is Lorna’s 15th birthday. Sent her a message at midnight wishing her a happy birthday. My millennium child- only child. I love & miss her, but not her actions toward me. It sucks to spend this day crying sporadically when friends are happy. Even though they understand..”

“Seems like every targeted mother I know gets slandered with the same lie – “mentally ill”.”

“I totally had the same thing happen to me, was told by my sons in a mediator’s office that they did not want to see me, was called by my first name etc.,”

” if the counselor doesn’t KNOW PA, they will make usually it worse..the counselor seems to be aware of the TERM Parental Alienation…but doesn’t  seem to want to help fight it. At this point I don’t feel like our Family Court Judge (there is only one in our small countyj) is interested either way….very frustrating.”

“My eldest daughter, who was alienated, abused, and kept from me for years,  was discarded by her father when she was of age and he could no longer collect support.  He threw her out into the street.  Today she received a registered letter from him.  He didn’t even send her a Christmas card.  He’s pissed that she went to visit her siblings, wants to stop her from seeing them.  He signed the letter CRAIG.  She’s beyond upset.  She’s done with him.  She realizes now he is not capable of loving anyone, only consumed with power and control.”

“Many mothers who seek safety from abuse are routinely prohibited from having even the most basic contact with their own children, not because they were unfit parents, but because they were outspent, out represented, and out-maneuvered in a court atmosphere not prepared to understand the needs of families dealing with domestic violence. To unnecessarily and violently separate a woman and her young children can represent the gravest form of abuse, with major social ramifications in generations to come.  When a court orders the removal of a child from a parent it can have the same emotional wounding effect on the deprived mother (or father) as if that child has been kidnapped or murdered. When the deprived parent has been the protective parent, and the court gives custody and decision-making power to the abusive parent under the guise of “Best Interests of the Child” statutes, the loss to the severed parent is deeply damaging.

“My life (is) destroyed & he got everything & got away with everything he did. I can’t rest easy on that!”

“So much money was made – tens upon tens of thousands, by those that helped my ex keep the fight going, that in the end, the Court and all associated with it, from Child’s Attorney, to Court-appointed therapists, were just as responsible as the alienating parent, in undermining my relationship with my child, and destroying my parental authority.”

“I recently went to see THE LION KING on stage… the young Simba is told lies by the adult Scar, his uncle…Simba flees into exile believing that he killed his own father…When he accidentally meets Nala, his childhood friend, she convinces him to return from exile. When he confronts Scar, the evil manipulator inadvertently reveals that he killed Simba’s father…the interesting theme of the story is that children often believe the lies that adults tell them, and live for years believing those lies.”

“It’s a shame we all are having to endure this and inexcusable that these other parents are behaving so abusively. It’s like they are being rewarded for being criminal.”

“How can I reconnect with my son when his father keeps him from me and fills his head with lies and brainwashes him to think I hate him?”

“I had wonderful daughters who loved me immensely until one day when they didn’t anymore for no apparent reason and for nothing I did..”

“My son used to hug me and say I Love You, Thanks For Everything, You’re The Best Mom in The Whole World…until his father started his campaign…then I was called by my first name, the most horrible profanity, and physically attacked.”

” It also never occurred to me that my kids could ever stop loving me and feeling close to me. I was very involved, engaged, supportive mother. Next thing I knew they refused to call me ‘Mom.”

“Too many family members are suffering due to PA, mental health workers too unfamiliar with this dynamic and our dysfunctional family court system.”

“Come home my darlings. I’m coping and living a full life, with surprising joy, but NOTHING compares to you. Come back please… in your hearts…. please turn your hearts toward home; toward me.  Love,  Mom”  “Dear Angela and Sarah,I love you. I miss you, please come home for Christmas in your hearts.”  “Dear Matthew, Luke & Sarah, Please know your Mom n Grandparents, your Finnish relatives, my friends n extended family all love and miss you terribly. We are still here for you. Waiting patiently for you to come home. Merry Christmas.”  https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveletterswall/

“No twinkle of hope ….. Zero zip nothing …. The years are passing by.”

“Tonight on the Parenting Revolution show, a gentlemen from Florida, with one of the most extreme cases of P.A. I have ever seen. Steve Sumner has not only undergone the lies from his Ex, which were allowed in court. But he has to surfer a day to day battle from which the courts have taking his children from him. Even to the extreme where Steve isn’t allowed to see his very own children that strive reside in the very same state he still lives in. So tune in to hear the rest of the story that even made the local news. And now you have your chance to hear his story and ask any question that you may have. Steve will be on this Thursday here on thehttp://www.wnlmradio.com/ from 7 pm pacific/ 9pm Central / 10 pm Eastern. The call in Number 707-701-3325 or contact via Skype (search for ID: Timmmay73 Revolution’s Archive here:https://soundcloud.com/gentlemansforum.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qts_8V3a6RM

“We PA parents struggle especially hard this time of the year to try and make up for our loss by pretending it’s not a loss, by pretending it’s a strengthening exercise, or by reaching out to others on the internet and elsewhere who have also lost children to the misguided bitterness of a ex-spouse bent on destroying the relationship between a child and a parent.  But sometimes the depths of the holiday void can be too much, sometimes we expect a whole lot more, and sometimes our rationalizations deliver less than we expect. And it’s at times like these when comments like “Hang in there,” “Don’t give up,” or “I’ll pray for you” – all from kind souls who mean well – are seen as meaningless pabulum, slaps to the face, and failures to acknowledge our all-too-important pain and brush it aside as little more than meaningless family-related trivia – something we may tolerate at any other time of the year but can’t now when our emotions are extra raw, as they are during the holidays.”  http://nomoresecretsandlies.blogspot.com/2013/12/parental-alienation-during-holidays.html

“I need advice. I talked to my oldest (16, male) via text messaging and he cussed me and was acting ugly. I didn’t correct him but I feel like if I don’t, it’s like I’m saying him treating me this way is okay. Any suggestions on how to handle this? He used his father’s phone to talk to me, and I don’t know if his dad and stepmom are aware of any of the convo (but I wouldn’t doubt it if they were).”

“I got to talk to my children twice by phone when the ex first took them away.  After that, the phone was never answered….When the final divorce was declared, it was certain that I would not be able to talk to my children again.  I was destroyed.  I went through 3 rounds in the psych ward.  I eventually ended up in a tent in the middle of winter in an Iowa state park.”  https://livinglifebetter.wordpress.com/2015/01/13/the-effects-of-parental-alienation/

“As we are heading into the holiday season, a time when family and friends look forward to being together and celebrating, I would like everyone to remember that there are hundreds of thousands of others who are suffering. They have lost loved ones, or are alienated from their own children, and for us, the holidays are a time that only magnifies the pain we feel all year, and the many reminders of all the fun things we could and should be doing with those we love is a dagger to our hearts. We are fighting for change, because dying a slow death from grief is not living, it is just another form of dying, and this type of abuse cannot continue any longer. Everyone of us matters, everyone of our children needs and loves us, just as much as we need and love them. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time of year. Please don’t give up, and know you’re not alone. We are here for anyone who needs to reach out, and we will never stop fighting, for you, for ourselves, and most of all for our children.www.naasca.org/forourkids

“Thinking of you always, my beautiful daughter. Of course, the (holiday) season brings a lot of difficulties for those others of our number going without seeing their children, but then again, this goes on every day of every year for us. I know – I just know, that one day you’re going to come back to me and I live in the grace of that knowledge. I talk to you each night as I travel home from work. I see the same moon that you’re probably seeing and I share my thoughts and prayers with you as though you’re right beside me. Do you remember, that when we were walking to day care or to school in the early morning hours, that I give you my little motivational speech about having a good day and kindness toward others and how school is so important? You used to hold my hand and shuffle along beside me and listen. I remember the hug and kiss that you gave me before I set off and how you’d say, have a good day, daddy. That memory is as crisp as if it happened five minutes ago. It is among the most valuable moments in my life with you that will never go away. That beautiful child is still within you, my sweet and one day, it’ll re emerge and the hate you were taught will wash away like dirt beneath a waterfall. We’ll be together and we will win. I hope you have the best Christmas of all as I will, knowing that I’ve got a beautiful daughter out there, blessing the world

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3 thoughts on “Targeted/Rejected Parents Speak Out

  1. Isolated.

    Dear son….my only son. My only child. In the rare times I see you, your reluctance to allow yourself to feel or show happiness is apparent but when you’re less guarded it is there….a tiny ray of light shines through the clouds…even for just a moment….and it is a beautiful moment…..these are the moments I fight for, even though you yourself occasionally tell me with harsh words that you hate me and don’t want me in your life. You may not even know it, but I do…that you are wearing the armor and carrying the ammunition and assault weapons of your father’s battle against me…you are his representative and messenger. You even mimic the very same insulting phrases and threatening body language that he used to abuse me with. I am sad to see the beautiful child I carried and raised in younger years becoming an aggressive man full of hate and anger. How sad that you think you should feel ashamed of me rather than proud, that you should dread seeing me rather than being able to look forward to seeing me….that you have to feel a little guilty about actually enjoying any of our time together. I understand that right now it is too confusing and complicated to oppose others and stand up for your rights to have a relationship with your mother….and sadly, so far the courts have not assisted either of us in this regard. For so long, I have been under his control and now, you are also whether you realize it or not. Unfortunately, through you, he still controls me ( because he knows I love and miss you)…..and he also controls you……but he has groomed you for so long that you are convinced that your opinions are completely your own and not influenced at all and insulted if anyone suggests otherwise……. So now, conveniently, the controller can wipe his hands of any responsibility and put it on your shoulders. It is now your choice to not see me…nothing to do with him….apparently. We are both being robbed of our precious time together because of his insecurities……and you probably think you are with the stronger one. Right now you may almost resent me for not giving upon you…but as a parent, there is no choice in the matter. I see the hurting boy far beneath the layers of bravado and tough talk.

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